Practical Ways To Coach Yourself When Your Child Struggles With Alcohol or Drugs, With Cathy Cioth

You find the vape pen, or the pills, or the empty bottle at the bottom of the laundry basket. You take it, because that was the boundary. Within minutes your house goes from zero to two hundred: threats, slammed doors, a kid you barely recognize. Every instinct says respond right now, and if you are like Cathy and me, you do. Then you spend the next day trying to undo everything you said.

This episode is the practical companion to the self-coaching questions I shared in episode 328. Cathy and I walk through what we are calling Stream Vignettes, composite scenarios pulled from years of coaching calls, community posts, and our own homes. The confiscation that explodes. The natural consequence you have to sit through with your heart in your throat. The suicide threat that arrives attached to a demand for money. The family vacation you keep hoping will fix things.

For each one, we get into the questions that slow you down before you react, starting with the one we ask first every single time. We also cover what these questions are not for, which is a conversation I clearly needed about fifteen years ago.

What stayed with me most is something we kept circling back to: there is no expiration date on your response. Nothing requires you to handle the worst moment of your week at three in the morning. Cathy and I both have stories about what happens when you try.

If your home has a moment like this coming, and most of ours do, keep this one where you can find it.

YOU'LL LEARN:

• The question Cathy and I ask first in every single scenario, before anything else
• What your child's explosion over a confiscated substance is actually telling you
• The advice therapists gave us about suicide threats, even when you’re pretty sure it’s a negotiation tactic
• Who you are really rescuing when you cannot let a natural consequence play out
• Why there is no expiration date on your response, and what to say while you figure it out

EPISODE RESOURCES:

• Hopestream podcast ep. 328 - 10 Self-Coaching Questions - Part 1
• Rawly Glass on Hopestream podcast 324 - consequences don’t work

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