Episode 178: Turn Down The Volume On Anger ASAP w/ 2 Anger Management Experts!

This is a bonus episode of The Evolved Caveman Podcast as anger has been on the rise worldwide since the start of COVID. This episode was originally recorded in 2021 during the height of COVID. However, the gems included within will dazzle for eternity. 

My esteemed guest is Dr. Thomas DiBlasi, an anger management expert and psychologist. So check this out…Two anger management experts riffing on anger, how to identify it early and TOOLS you can use to turn down the volume on anger. ‘Nuff said! 

Domestic violence reports are on the rise in most parts of the world due to COVID, financial pressures and more. Anger is increasing everywhere. My Facebook Anger Management Group has exploded in numbers in the past 2 years.  “Pressure cooker” cases (those who've never been violent before but the anger is building) are growing exponentially due to an unprecedented stacking of huge stressors - financial, relational, job loss, parenting and teaching children at home, etc. 

So…how do we get ahead of this anger tsunami and begin practicing tools NOW to minimize the psychological impact later? 

Listen in on a brilliant conversation packed with ACTIONABLE TOOLS between two internationally renowned anger management experts as they share the best ways to ... 

a) increase your awareness in the moment when you are getting angry and 

b) tools to manage that anger immediately (and over time) and

c) how to replace those pissed off feelings with more frequent positive emotions such as contentment.

It does not get any more important than this. Listen and learn. Below is a list of free resources for further practice in this area…

Free Resources: (I'm giving this shit away because everyone of you who takes me up on it makes the world a better place for all those you know and love! So thank you for your efforts at personal development!) You can join the FB Anger Management Group for free access to my online anger management video course - normally $75.

Link to PDF Article - 20 Things Mentally Tough People Do 

Link to PDF Article - Top Ways To Mindfully Manage Anger

Progressive Muscle Relaxation Exercise Video (MP4) 

Progressive Muscle Relaxation Audio Only (MP3) 

For more in-depth resources (such as Dr. John's Online Anger Management Course, Anxiety Relief course, Happiness course and other necessities!)…

Visit Dr. John's High Performer Shop

Dr. John’s Anger Management Group on FB 

Dr. Thomas DiBlasi Bio and Links:

Thomas DiBlasi is an Assistant Professor at St. Joseph’s College where he teaches undergraduate students, and researches anger, aggression, domestic violence, and revenge.  Dr. DiBlasi has given over 30 presentations locally, nationally, and internationally. In addition, he has nearly ten publications, predominantly focusing on anger and aggression. He is a member of APA (specifically Divisions 1, 2, 12, and 19), National Anger Management Association (NAMA), New York City- Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (NYC-CBT), Association of Domestic Violence Intervention Providers, EPA, and ABCT, where is he also on the leadership committee for the special interest group of Forensic and Externalizing Behaviors. He is currently working on research related to motivational interviewing, anger, revenge, and intimate partner violence. In addition, Dr. DiBlasi loves working with clients at My OCD Care.   

The url to his school page is below, as well as his work at MyOCDCare…

St. Joseph’s College Faculty Page for Dr. Tom: https://www.sjcny.edu/directory/faculty/thomas-diblasi-ma-abd.

MyOCDC: https://myocdcare.com/dr-thomas-diblasi/

Topics Discussed By Time:

0:46 Anger and domestic violence statistics from the last two months all over the world

3:24    “Pressure cooker” metaphor violence cases with no previous abuse with no tools to manage it

4:54    Dr. Tomas DiBlasi introduced

5:47     Humans aren’t meant to hibernate

6:30    We still have a choice in what we do while in quarantine

7:13. When the choice of being with someone is taken away, the irritability adds up easier

7:50    “Pressure cooker” again

8:00. Domestic violence is not instrumental but rather mainly, emotional expression(lack of tools)

9:00    Anger can be both a primary and secondary emotion.

10:25  #1 anger trigger people we love and how anger protects us

11:15  “Man box culture” what it is and how it affects men.

14:30 The internalization of social norms, like the man box 

16:20  Most debates stem from our own insecurities

18:30  Anger at the moment is a good feeling

18:50  Evolutionary, emotions like anger and fear were very useful because they often allowed for survival.

20:00 Disadvantages of anger - we push away the people that can help serve us

20:20  Bucket metaphor, two buckets - positive and negative and how to deal with the negative

23:20  Physical effects of anger

24:04 The practice of progressive muscle relaxation

25:00 More specific tools to deal with anger

26:00 Sympathetic and parasympathetic nervous system what they are and how they affect men

28:40  Mind-body connection

And that's only the first 29 minutes!

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