Why You Go Passive Aggressive With Your Husband (And The Rule That Stops It)

If you've ever dealt with mom guilt after losing your cool with your husband and wondered why you get so mad at him over little things, this episode is for you.

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Author Jackie Kelley and her husband run their marriage on a set of rules they made up themselves, and her new book, So You Married a Human, comes out today. In this honest and funny conversation, Jackie and JoAnn trade stories about passive aggression, shared-space chaos, and the unrealistic expectations so many of us carry into marriage.

In this episode, you'll learn:

Why "use your words" became Jackie's first marriage rule, and how to say what hurt you without slamming cabinets and hoping he notices

The "you also suck a bunch" rule, and how to tell which little annoyances are worth letting go

How the "wait for it" rule helps a fast emotional processor and a slow one talk without a fight

Why so many fights come from mismatched expectations, and the questions to ask before the dinner, the party, or the holiday gift budget

Why rules written for marriage also work with kids, coworkers, and in-laws

Resources mentioned in this episode

Jackie Kelley on Instagram: @stayathomejackie

Jackie's book, So You Married a Human (out October 6, 2026)

The Happy Mom Reset (free class)

No Guilt Mom Inner Circle

JoAnn's book: The Best Mom is a Happy Mom

No Guilt Mom Podcast page

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