How Women Can Share the Mental Load in Relationships with Eve Rodsky (Encore)

If you’ve ever felt like you’re somehow responsible for remembering, planning, anticipating, organizing, and keeping track of ALL THE THINGS in your relationship, this conversation with Eve Rodsky is going to make you feel very seen.

Eve and I talk about the mental load women carry in relationships, the invisible and unpaid work that can be so difficult to put into words, and why creating a more equal partnership can completely change the way you experience your relationship. Whether you’re married, dating, single, or thinking about the kind of partnership you want someday, this is relationship advice you’ll want to hear.

You will learn…

• Why women so often end up carrying the mental load in relationships
• The invisible work that goes into keeping a household and family running
• Why some of the most frustrating relationship dynamics are about much more than chores
• How cultural expectations can shape the roles we fall into with our partners
• What it can look like to create a more equal relationship without keeping score
• Why “doing it all” isn't necessarily a sign that you're doing relationships well
• How to start thinking differently about responsibility, partnership, and fairness

If you’ve ever found yourself thinking, “Why am I the one who has to think about everything?”, you are absolutely not alone. The mental load can be exhausting precisely because so much of it happens internally — and because a lot of the work women do in relationships doesn't look like work from the outside.

And while we talk about this through the lens of heterosexual relationships, this conversation is really for anyone who feels like they’re taking on more responsibility than their partner. The goal isn't to blame women or men. It's to understand the systems and expectations we’ve inherited so we can start creating relationships that actually work for the people in them.

Remember: the imbalance isn't your fault, but you can still be part of changing it. A healthy relationship doesn't have to look perfectly equal from the outside. It should, however, feel like a partnership where both people’s time, energy, and contributions matter.

About Eve Rodsky

Eve Rodsky transformed her “blueberries breakdown” into a catalyst for social change when she applied her Harvard-trained background in organizational management to ask a simple question: What would happen if we treated our homes as our most important organizations?

Her New York Times bestselling book and Reese’s Book Club Pick, Fair Play, introduced a gamified life-management system designed to help partners rebalance their domestic workload and rethink the value of unpaid labor and care.

In her follow-up book, Find Your Unicorn Space: Reclaim Your Creative Life in a Too-Busy World, Eve explores creativity, productivity, resilience, and the importance of reclaiming time for yourself.

Learn more about Fair Play and Unicorn Space at fairplaylife.com

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Mentioned In This Episode...

• the Fair Play card deck
• Extreme Ownership book
• TED Talk Robert Waldinger: What makes a good life? Lessons from the longest study on happiness

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