358: The Real Work of Parenting ND Young Adults (Part 4), with Debbie Reber

The season of parenting a neurodivergent young adult is one of the most quietly demanding chapters no one prepares you for. You have spent years learning your child, advocating fiercely, and adjusting everything you thought you knew about parenting. And then, just when you think you have found your footing, the relationship itself asks you to change again.

In this fourth installment of our series on parenting neurodivergent young adults, Debbie Reber of Full Tilt Parenting joins me to go deep into the relational and emotional layer of this season. We talk about what it really means to offer support without imposing it, and why that distinction matters so much for our kids' nervous systems. We explore declarative language as a tool for keeping connection alive, and why coming at our kids with an agenda, even a loving one, can quietly push them further away.

We also get into the conversations that scare us most: talking about risk, substance use, and an uncertain future in ways that actually land. Debbie shares how she uses news stories as low-pressure entry points for hard conversations, and I share how being honest about my own young adult years helped more than any lecture ever could.

And we close with something I think every parent in this season needs to hear: giving yourself permission to step back, fill your own cup, and trust that doing so is not abandonment. It is one of the most loving things you can do for both of you.

Listen now and let this conversation meet you exactly where you are.

You can find additional resources at parentingadhdandautism.com and Regulated Kids.com — because it’s not just about the struggles, it’s about progress, one step at a time.

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You can find additional resources at parentingadhdandautism.com and Regulated Kids.com — because it’s not just about the struggles, it’s about progress, one step at a time.