On Purpose with Jay Shetty
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Kendall Jenner ON: Setting Boundaries to Increase Happiness & Healing Your Inner Child
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Kendall Jenner ON: Setting Boundaries to Increase Happiness & Healing Your Inner Child

You can order my new book 8 RULES OF LOVE at 8rulesoflove.com or at a retail store near you. You can also get the chance to see me live on my first ever world tour. This is a 90 minute interactive show where I will take you on a journey of finding, keeping and even letting go of love. Head to jayshettytour.com and find out if I'll be in a city near you. Thank you so much for all your support - I hope to see you soon.

Today, I sit down with the one and only Kendall Jenner. Kendall is a successful business founder, international supermodel, founder of the incredibly successful tequila brand, 818, and star on the Hulu’s, the Kardashians, which premieres in its second season on September 22nd. 

Kendal shows us a different side of her as she shares how her curiosity for people with brilliant minds and doing so much to give back to the world has eventually led to this interview. Behind the glamor and spotlight, she especially enjoys having some time alone with herself, and she values the importance of setting boundaries and why we should do things that lead to genuine happiness. We talk about her childhood and her love for animals, how the simple things give her the most joys, getting through grief after losing a dear friend, and finding the heart to be more kind to your inner child.

Kendall remains grounded and in tune with her inner goddess and is not allowing negativity and ill intentions change who she is, who she may become, and the purpose she is living by.  

What We Discuss:

  • 00:00:00 Intro
  • 00:00:26 “I think I manifested this interview…”
  • 00:09:53 “I grew up in a horse community.”
  • 00:15:42 Craving the simple things
  • 00:18:51 Setting boundaries for yourself
  • 00:21:46 Putting yourself first
  • 00:27:15 It’s important to be happy
  • 00:28:51 Reassuring yourself of who you really are
  • 00:33:06 Sometimes, family can be overwhelming
  • 00:35:54 Losing a dear friend
  • 00:40:53 Finding a new purpose
  • 00:45:38 Stop being mean to your inner child
  • 00:50:24 Kendall on Final Five

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Speaker 1: If your happiness depends on the actions of others, you know,

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Speaker 1: you're at mercy of things that you can't control. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: I'm not even just saying this. I literally think I

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Speaker 1: manifested this, Like it's the after I saw you at

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Speaker 1: Simmy and Hayes's house. So that was a couple months ago.

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Speaker 1: And then a few weeks ago, my I was talking

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Speaker 1: about a bunch of stuff and just kind of what

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Speaker 1: I would love to represent, just talking about a new

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Speaker 1: chapter for me and whatever, and I was she was like,

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Speaker 1: who would you really want to like talk to or whatever?

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Speaker 1: And I was like, it would be so cool to

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Speaker 1: talk to Jay and she was like that would be

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Speaker 1: really cool. And then we kind of just that was

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Speaker 1: me and I was like, no, frickin' way, he's hitting

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Speaker 1: me right now. So I was like, absolutely, this is

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Speaker 1: like perfect, It's the universe just putting it in perfect timing,

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Speaker 1: because that makes me.

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Speaker 2: So happy because it was exactly the opposite way. So

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Speaker 2: I've for a long time had people that I'd love

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Speaker 2: to sit down with, and every time I saw you

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Speaker 2: do something with mental Health and Vogue or any of

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Speaker 2: the segments that you ever did. I was just like,

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Speaker 2: she's amazing, Like, you know, it's incredible to the way

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Speaker 2: I'd be like, Oh, this is incredible, like to see

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Speaker 2: you speaking so openly about it, vulnerably about it. And

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Speaker 2: so I've always wanted to do this and then, but

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Speaker 2: we've never really crossed paths, and so I'm always just

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Speaker 2: like that day, i had to like pluck up the current,

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Speaker 2: but I'm just going to ask for myself, no, because

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Speaker 2: it's easier when I asked her, and I know Christy,

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Speaker 2: so yeah, yeah. But I was like, it's nicer when

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Speaker 2: there's I told my team too. I was like, it's

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Speaker 2: so much nicer when there's like a personal connection and

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Speaker 2: someone really feels comfortable rather than it's like a pr No.

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Speaker 3: It was.

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Speaker 1: It was so perfect. Like when I think back to it,

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Speaker 1: I'm like, that was me just trusting the universe and

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Speaker 1: and it literally Yeah you.

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Speaker 4: Felt it too, Yeah I did.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, And I hope that there is the set of spending.

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Speaker 4: More time to you Jenny too.

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Speaker 1: I would love that because, like I think, also, I

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Speaker 1: because you know, I know a little bit about your story.

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Speaker 1: I'm like so intrigued by people with just that amount

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Speaker 1: that's my goal in life.

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Speaker 2: I guess. Well, I think I feel the same way

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Speaker 2: all those people you just mentioned too, Yeah, so feel

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Speaker 2: very honored to be put into that group of people.

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Speaker 2: And we've had Whim on the podcast before too, so

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Speaker 2: up these dialogues, that is as if not more important.

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Speaker 2: As well as doing the work and doing the path. Yeah,

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Speaker 1: as like walking outside, taking a few de breaths and journaling, Like, yeah,

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Speaker 1: it's just that kind of stuff that I really like

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Speaker 2: Absolutely, And that's how that's at least how I see it. Yeah,

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Speaker 2: I see it not not completely, not as a pity

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Speaker 1: Cool.

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Speaker 2: And this is easily been the warmest introduction to a

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Speaker 1: Life going to say it was actually was actually really

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Speaker 1: This isn't like you know, me going out and promoting

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Speaker 2: So yeah, and this is this is a you know

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Speaker 1: So well I'm honored.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, So for me, it's definitely been that and to me,

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Speaker 2: the number one health podcast in the world. Thanks to

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Speaker 2: each and every single one of you that come back

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Speaker 2: every week to listen, learn, and grow. Now it's very

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Speaker 2: about the things that I most care about mental health, purpose,

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Speaker 2: the journey of life, and discovery and curiosity. And what

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Speaker 2: I love you, Simy and Aes. You've been amazing guests

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Speaker 2: one only someone who needs no introduction, but successful business founder,

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Speaker 2: international supermodel, a founder of the incredibly successful tequila brand

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Speaker 2: which premier is in second season on September twenty second.

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Speaker 2: The one and Only Kendall Jenna Kendell, thank you so

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Speaker 2: much for doing this.

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Speaker 1: For having me. That was a wonderful introduction.

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Speaker 2: Oh well, it's it's honestly, in such an honor getting

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Speaker 2: someone who functions with very similar values in a personal

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Speaker 2: connection sense. So when I reached out to you, I

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Speaker 2: really meant everything I said, and I could have written

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Speaker 2: about this, and I've watched so many of you interviews

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Speaker 2: and read so much too, But what would you say

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Speaker 2: for you as being one of your proudest moments or

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Speaker 2: greatest achievements or something that you really feel like and internally,

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Speaker 2: I mean, like for the basis of our conversation, like

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Speaker 1: Like I said, I look back and the things that

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Speaker 1: I've accomplished, just even my job, Like I think I

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Speaker 1: want to do, and the fact that I executed because

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Speaker 1: we talked about that determination like I really was. I

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Speaker 1: decision and was like, this is what I want to do.

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Speaker 1: And I went to my mom and I was like,

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Speaker 1: please help me do this. And I didn't stop until

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Speaker 1: I was twenty four that I was like, Okay, I

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Speaker 1: we can also get into because that's a very kind

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Speaker 1: of dramatic story, but like I just knew, and I

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Speaker 1: think I'm proud of myself for or being that kid

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Speaker 1: and being determined to do that and then executing and

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Speaker 1: and that I guess I still do. But I also

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Speaker 1: am proud of, I think more so the self work

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Speaker 1: that I've done within that process, because there was a

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Speaker 1: long period of time, i'd say the core five years

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Speaker 1: of it, that I was extremely overworked, not my happiest,

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Speaker 1: because I was overwhelmed and I felt like I was

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Speaker 1: saying yes to everything because I felt really, really grateful

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Speaker 1: and really honored to be in the position that I

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Speaker 1: was in. So I was always saying yes, and it

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Speaker 1: just took a lot out of me to the point

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Speaker 1: where I just wasn't happy anymore. And so I had

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Speaker 1: to set those boundaries for myself. When I was about

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Speaker 1: twenty three, twenty four, I'd say, like, what a year

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Speaker 1: before the pandemic, So yeah, I was probably twenty three.

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Speaker 1: I really set boundaries for myself, and I was like,

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Speaker 1: I want to continue to do this because this is

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Speaker 1: what I love, but I need to start saying no

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Speaker 1: when I can and prioritizing me and prioritizing, like, you know,

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Speaker 1: my happiness and my well being. And it has done

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Speaker 1: wonders for me, like I feel like I can show

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Speaker 1: up better for myself and I can show up a

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Speaker 1: better person for the people that get to be around

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Speaker 1: me that day, and you know that I work with

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Speaker 1: on that day. So yeah, yeah, so that's what I'm

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Speaker 1: proud of you. That's amazing.

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Speaker 2: I was I won't say I was hoping for that,

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Speaker 2: because I'm always open to wherever anyone's life experience goes.

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Speaker 2: But there's a part of me that loves hearing that, Like,

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Speaker 2: I really appreciate hearing that, because when you've achieved so

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Speaker 2: many incredible things in your career, which you have to

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Speaker 2: then say, well, this is the part, like knowing how

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Speaker 2: to navigate it or making the right choices at the

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Speaker 2: right time.

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Speaker 1: Healthy balance, the healthy balance, it's so important. It's important

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Speaker 1: for all of us, like we have to this is

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Speaker 1: what we're prioritizing, you know.

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Speaker 2: Yeah, so how did you find the courage to do that?

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Speaker 2: The twenty three Marc as you're saying, you're in a

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Speaker 2: competitive industry. As you said, it was overworking, it's fast paced.

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Speaker 2: I'm guessing there's comparison in that industry. There's competition in

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Speaker 2: that industry. It's not an easy space to be. You're

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Speaker 2: you know, you're in the top zero point zero one

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Speaker 2: percent in your industry. So it's hard. And the reason

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Speaker 2: I asked this is because I work with so many

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Speaker 2: people in this space and to have the courage to

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Speaker 2: say no, I know that if I sought this out,

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Speaker 2: then all of this is going to be just fine.

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Speaker 2: That actually takes more courage than we recognize. We realize

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Speaker 2: that when you have nothing, then there's nothing to lose,

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Speaker 2: you can actually have a lot of courage, right, But

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Speaker 2: when you have everything and there's everything to lose, and

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Speaker 2: a lot of the time, at least what I've heard

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Speaker 2: in town is you know older managers and agents and

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Speaker 2: I'm not saying you have any of this, but people

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Speaker 2: that I know will be told, well, hey, if you

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Speaker 2: don't do this, like you'll be forgotten next year, or

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Speaker 2: you know your your career is only going to last

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Speaker 2: another six months. How did you have that courage to

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Speaker 2: say no, no, no, I need to do this, Like where

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Speaker 2: did that come from?

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Speaker 1: And I think that it's interesting, like I've never thought

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Speaker 1: about it that way. To be completely honest with you,

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Speaker 1: I just knew that if I had gone any further,

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Speaker 1: that I was going to lose myself. I was at

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Speaker 1: that very I was on the teeter totter edge of

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Speaker 1: that point, where had I gone any further, I was

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Speaker 1: probably not going to be great. It was so important

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Speaker 1: to me to feel good that I just knew that

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Speaker 1: it was something that I had to do. And I

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Speaker 1: can't say, like, you're absolutely right, like there were so

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Speaker 1: many people around me that had told me not to

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Speaker 1: say no and or told me yeah, told me not

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Speaker 1: to say no, told me not to stop. I fought

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Speaker 1: my way out of it a little bit because there

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Speaker 1: were people that had worked for me that you know,

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Speaker 1: didn't want me to stop because it might have benefited them,

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Speaker 1: of course, but I got to that point and I

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Speaker 1: just knew I had to do it, and I just

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Speaker 1: I don't know, I don't know how to explain it.

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Speaker 1: I guess it was just such an unbelievable sensation that

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Speaker 1: I had where I knew that if I do this,

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Speaker 1: I'm going to be better for everyone, and I'm going

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Speaker 1: to be better for myself, which means I'm going to

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Speaker 1: be better for the people around me. And I have

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Speaker 1: to do this, and so it wasn't really I want

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Speaker 1: to be able to live with happiness, God forbid any

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Speaker 1: of this ever went away. And I think that that

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Speaker 1: was a big moment for me of being like, I'm

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Speaker 1: gonna be okay if I don't get this job tomorrow,

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Speaker 1: and I'm gonna be okay if I don't get that

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Speaker 1: job in a month, if I have to take this

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Speaker 1: time to do whatever things will come. Everything's going to

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Speaker 1: work out the way it's supposed to do.

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Speaker 2: And I had to trust that well to me from

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Speaker 2: the outside, And it's beautiful that you didn't see it

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Speaker 2: in yourself. I al respects it even more wonderful. But

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Speaker 2: the idea that to me from the outside, that's a

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Speaker 2: lot of courage. Yeah. I think it takes a lot

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Speaker 2: of courage. It takes a lot of vulnerability and openness,

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Speaker 2: and it takes courage every level, whether someone's thinking about

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Speaker 2: quitting their job to do something they love, or whether

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Speaker 2: someone's trying to relocate their family and doesn't know how,

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Speaker 2: or whether someone like you is feeling success but then

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Speaker 2: going well wait, women. And I think in the past

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Speaker 2: few years, we've seen athletes and musicians and actors and

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Speaker 2: people in all creative industries step back and say, well,

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Speaker 2: I need to put me first. Yeah, And I think

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Speaker 2: that that's empowering because I think we hear about burnout

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Speaker 2: in work.

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Speaker 4: Culture and corporate pressure so often for sure.

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Speaker 2: So what was it that you started to do with

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Speaker 2: that newfound time at that time? Like, where was is that?

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Speaker 2: What the curious? Was? The curiosity always there and now

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Speaker 2: you could actually follow it?

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Speaker 1: It was it was, it was always there. And I

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Speaker 1: had had a lot of people coming to me telling

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Speaker 1: me about meditation and how it changed their life and

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Speaker 1: therapy and so many different things. And I was a

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Speaker 1: bit overwhelmed because I was like, oh my god, what

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Speaker 1: of this is going to suit me. I think it's

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Speaker 1: a very personal experience. I think everybody has a very

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Speaker 1: different version of all of that stuff, and so it

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Speaker 1: was a little overwhelming. So I think I really just

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Speaker 1: took the time to be off for a second. It

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00:28:54,600 --> 00:28:57,000
Speaker 1: was even the little things. It was like being able

633
00:28:57,000 --> 00:28:59,160
Speaker 1: to go to my friend's birthday party, which I wouldn't

634
00:28:59,200 --> 00:29:01,640
Speaker 1: have been able to go before because I was working

635
00:29:01,680 --> 00:29:02,000
Speaker 1: a lot.

636
00:29:02,240 --> 00:29:04,320
Speaker 2: I love hearing that because I think it is those

637
00:29:04,360 --> 00:29:07,800
Speaker 2: simple things, like you know, giving yourself that space. Yeah,

638
00:29:07,840 --> 00:29:10,520
Speaker 2: whatever it is that you needed to do when you

639
00:29:10,600 --> 00:29:13,200
Speaker 2: needed it, And like you said, sometimes it's like that's

640
00:29:13,240 --> 00:29:15,160
Speaker 2: when all the subscribe buttons come up in front of you.

641
00:29:15,200 --> 00:29:16,880
Speaker 2: And it's like try this and try this, and it's like,

642
00:29:16,920 --> 00:29:18,760
Speaker 2: well no, no, no, let me just take my time.

643
00:29:19,440 --> 00:29:21,440
Speaker 1: It was also now that I think about it, Yeah,

644
00:29:21,720 --> 00:29:24,200
Speaker 1: twenty three, I'm twenty six. I've had my horse for

645
00:29:24,640 --> 00:29:28,760
Speaker 1: so around that time is when I bought the horse

646
00:29:28,800 --> 00:29:32,920
Speaker 1: that I have now, who is my Like I jump

647
00:29:32,960 --> 00:29:35,400
Speaker 1: her and I like, I have two other horses, but

648
00:29:35,480 --> 00:29:37,880
Speaker 1: they're like retired, so I don't really ride them the

649
00:29:37,880 --> 00:29:40,160
Speaker 1: same way I ride her. So yeah, I guess it

650
00:29:40,240 --> 00:29:42,240
Speaker 1: was around that time too that I was like, I'm

651
00:29:42,240 --> 00:29:44,040
Speaker 1: going to do this because I love this and like

652
00:29:44,080 --> 00:29:45,720
Speaker 1: I want to get back into it and this is

653
00:29:45,720 --> 00:29:48,120
Speaker 1: what I've loved my whole life. So so it was

654
00:29:48,160 --> 00:29:49,680
Speaker 1: around that time that I feel like all of that

655
00:29:49,760 --> 00:29:51,840
Speaker 1: started happening, and I bought my horse and I like

656
00:29:52,320 --> 00:29:55,400
Speaker 1: started taking more time for things that made me really happy.

657
00:29:55,720 --> 00:29:58,520
Speaker 2: Yeah. What I'm noticing in you and observing, or at

658
00:29:58,600 --> 00:30:01,960
Speaker 2: least from just the no in a good way way,

659
00:30:03,360 --> 00:30:05,080
Speaker 2: I was just saying, it's like it feels like, no

660
00:30:05,120 --> 00:30:08,560
Speaker 2: matter what's happening in your orbit, there's this pillar of

661
00:30:08,640 --> 00:30:12,440
Speaker 2: belief that it's important to be happy. Yeah, like you know,

662
00:30:12,560 --> 00:30:14,560
Speaker 2: that's like this core center belief in your life where

663
00:30:14,560 --> 00:30:17,080
Speaker 2: it's really important to be happy. It's important to be happy.

664
00:30:17,120 --> 00:30:19,920
Speaker 2: It's that has to be the goal for sure.

665
00:30:20,200 --> 00:30:25,400
Speaker 1: And you know it's not always easy. We live in

666
00:30:25,440 --> 00:30:29,840
Speaker 1: such an interesting industry and in such an interesting time

667
00:30:30,240 --> 00:30:34,000
Speaker 1: with social media, that it can be very hard. Sometimes

668
00:30:34,680 --> 00:30:38,800
Speaker 1: you can fall victim to so many things that don't

669
00:30:38,840 --> 00:30:41,880
Speaker 1: serve you and that don't make you happy. If your

670
00:30:41,960 --> 00:30:47,280
Speaker 1: happiness depends on the actions of others, you know, you're

671
00:30:47,320 --> 00:30:50,880
Speaker 1: at mercy of things that you can't control. And that's

672
00:30:50,960 --> 00:30:53,800
Speaker 1: never where I want to be. So I always want

673
00:30:53,800 --> 00:30:56,560
Speaker 1: to live in like me and my therapist talk about

674
00:30:56,600 --> 00:30:59,640
Speaker 1: like my higher goddess, my higher self, Like I always

675
00:30:59,680 --> 00:31:03,960
Speaker 1: want to live there knowing that you know when I'm there,

676
00:31:04,080 --> 00:31:07,080
Speaker 1: you can't take that away from me. That's mine And

677
00:31:07,120 --> 00:31:09,040
Speaker 1: no matter what you can disagree with me, you can

678
00:31:09,080 --> 00:31:12,560
Speaker 1: agree with me, that's not going. I'm not changing, I'm

679
00:31:12,600 --> 00:31:15,320
Speaker 1: not shifting. I'm here, I'm in my higher Goddess. So

680
00:31:16,040 --> 00:31:20,640
Speaker 1: I kind of I always live by like holding my

681
00:31:20,760 --> 00:31:23,680
Speaker 1: happiness and not letting anyone else affect it. And though

682
00:31:23,680 --> 00:31:26,040
Speaker 1: I fall victim to it at times well as we

683
00:31:26,120 --> 00:31:30,400
Speaker 1: all probably do, absolutely I strive every day to live

684
00:31:30,480 --> 00:31:31,360
Speaker 1: in that place, So.

685
00:31:31,680 --> 00:31:34,160
Speaker 2: What are some of the qualities of your higher goddess

686
00:31:34,240 --> 00:31:37,760
Speaker 2: so that that kind of she's awesome.

687
00:31:38,760 --> 00:31:41,200
Speaker 1: Like I said, I don't love a pity party. I also, like,

688
00:31:41,600 --> 00:31:44,040
Speaker 1: you know, sometimes it feels weird to like say good

689
00:31:44,080 --> 00:31:47,600
Speaker 1: things about yourself. But I've also learned a lot about

690
00:31:47,640 --> 00:31:49,480
Speaker 1: talking to myself and a lot about looking in the

691
00:31:49,480 --> 00:31:53,080
Speaker 1: mirror and being like, you're great, you're gorgeous, you're amazing,

692
00:31:53,240 --> 00:31:57,280
Speaker 1: you're loyal, you're positive, you're so many like I love

693
00:31:57,320 --> 00:32:01,160
Speaker 1: words of affirmation. I love just sitting there and reassuring

694
00:32:01,200 --> 00:32:05,520
Speaker 1: myself of who I am, because that's another thing for me.

695
00:32:05,880 --> 00:32:09,960
Speaker 1: You know, there's so many false narratives about me, about

696
00:32:10,000 --> 00:32:13,000
Speaker 1: all of us, I'm sure, like so many people think

697
00:32:13,040 --> 00:32:15,920
Speaker 1: they have you figured out when they don't even know

698
00:32:16,200 --> 00:32:19,000
Speaker 1: the half of it. So sitting there and being like,

699
00:32:19,440 --> 00:32:22,360
Speaker 1: you know, you get frustrated. Sometimes it could feel really unfair.

700
00:32:22,440 --> 00:32:24,720
Speaker 1: You could be reading something that someone is saying about you,

701
00:32:24,840 --> 00:32:27,400
Speaker 1: or hearing something that someone's saying about you and being like,

702
00:32:27,480 --> 00:32:29,640
Speaker 1: that is so unfair because that's not who I am,

703
00:32:29,880 --> 00:32:33,240
Speaker 1: And that really gets to me sometimes and that really sucks.

704
00:32:34,120 --> 00:32:35,960
Speaker 1: But then looking at myself in the mirror and being like,

705
00:32:36,000 --> 00:32:38,480
Speaker 1: but I know who I am and that's all. Why

706
00:32:38,480 --> 00:32:41,560
Speaker 1: does anything else matter? And my friends know who I am,

707
00:32:41,640 --> 00:32:43,960
Speaker 1: and my family knows who I am. My dog knows

708
00:32:44,000 --> 00:32:45,719
Speaker 1: who I am, my horse knows who I am, Like,

709
00:32:46,080 --> 00:32:48,479
Speaker 1: why does any of everything else is just noise?

710
00:32:48,920 --> 00:32:51,120
Speaker 2: I do this exercise. I don't think I've sh had

711
00:32:51,160 --> 00:32:53,280
Speaker 2: this before, but I do this exercise with some of

712
00:32:53,320 --> 00:32:55,160
Speaker 2: my clients where we'll go on a walk and we'll

713
00:32:55,160 --> 00:32:58,200
Speaker 2: be on a hike wherever we are, and I'll ask

714
00:32:58,280 --> 00:33:01,560
Speaker 2: them what they think a piece of you know, maybe

715
00:33:01,600 --> 00:33:04,800
Speaker 2: there's a little leaf, or maybe there's some flower or

716
00:33:04,800 --> 00:33:07,360
Speaker 2: something that looks a little unique on the path, and

717
00:33:07,400 --> 00:33:10,040
Speaker 2: I'll say, what do you think that feels like? And

718
00:33:10,120 --> 00:33:11,920
Speaker 2: what do you think it would feel like if you

719
00:33:12,000 --> 00:33:14,400
Speaker 2: picked it up in your hand. And they'll be like, Oh,

720
00:33:14,440 --> 00:33:16,760
Speaker 2: it looks really rough and like it might scratch me,

721
00:33:17,120 --> 00:33:19,200
Speaker 2: and like it looks like a bit, you know, like

722
00:33:19,360 --> 00:33:22,680
Speaker 2: uneven or whatever, and it looks kind of hard and strong.

723
00:33:23,160 --> 00:33:25,400
Speaker 2: And then I'll ask them to pick it up, and

724
00:33:25,520 --> 00:33:29,160
Speaker 2: nine times out of ten it's completely different. Like they'll

725
00:33:29,160 --> 00:33:31,080
Speaker 2: pick it up and it will just dissolve in their hands,

726
00:33:31,360 --> 00:33:33,120
Speaker 2: or they'll turn it over and the color is really

727
00:33:33,200 --> 00:33:36,200
Speaker 2: soft and sorry the shape. The shape's really soft, and

728
00:33:36,320 --> 00:33:39,080
Speaker 2: the color's totally different on the other side. And I

729
00:33:39,120 --> 00:33:41,000
Speaker 2: do that I exercise to help us realize just how

730
00:33:41,080 --> 00:33:44,240
Speaker 2: multifaceted humans are. Today, I've got to meet you, and

731
00:33:44,640 --> 00:33:47,520
Speaker 2: obviously we're spending a lot of deep, intimate, vulnerable time together,

732
00:33:47,600 --> 00:33:50,720
Speaker 2: so you learn faster about someone. But if someone only

733
00:33:50,760 --> 00:33:53,320
Speaker 2: follows someone on social media, or only sees someone at

734
00:33:53,360 --> 00:33:56,680
Speaker 2: an event, or only sees one interview, it's so easy

735
00:33:56,720 --> 00:34:00,600
Speaker 2: to create such a singular view of someone and I

736
00:34:00,640 --> 00:34:02,120
Speaker 2: and I want to say this because I really think

737
00:34:02,120 --> 00:34:04,800
Speaker 2: we all feel it. I don't think anyone wants to

738
00:34:04,840 --> 00:34:08,640
Speaker 2: be seen in a singular way. If you had to

739
00:34:08,719 --> 00:34:11,719
Speaker 2: choose one word that had to be you for the

740
00:34:11,760 --> 00:34:13,920
Speaker 2: rest of your life, I don't think anyone wants that.

741
00:34:13,960 --> 00:34:17,200
Speaker 2: I think we all know that we're messy and complex

742
00:34:17,760 --> 00:34:20,879
Speaker 2: and different, of course, but we like to put someone

743
00:34:20,920 --> 00:34:23,799
Speaker 2: else in a box, whoever that may be, because it's

744
00:34:23,880 --> 00:34:26,319
Speaker 2: easier than to live life and say, okay, well that's

745
00:34:26,440 --> 00:34:29,160
Speaker 2: person's a bright yeah.

746
00:34:29,239 --> 00:34:29,359
Speaker 5: No.

747
00:34:29,480 --> 00:34:31,960
Speaker 2: So there's this beautiful piece of wisdom that I always

748
00:34:31,960 --> 00:34:35,440
Speaker 2: share from Charles Horton Cooley, and he wrote this in

749
00:34:35,560 --> 00:34:38,600
Speaker 2: eighteen ninety I think it was, which just shows how

750
00:34:38,640 --> 00:34:40,520
Speaker 2: true this has been for such a long time and

751
00:34:40,520 --> 00:34:43,640
Speaker 2: obviously long before that as well. And he said, the

752
00:34:43,719 --> 00:34:46,440
Speaker 2: challenge today is I'm not what I think I am.

753
00:34:46,960 --> 00:34:50,080
Speaker 2: I'm not what you think I am. I am what

754
00:34:50,160 --> 00:34:53,600
Speaker 2: I think you think I am. And we'll let that

755
00:34:53,600 --> 00:34:59,280
Speaker 2: blow everyone's mind. Yeah, Charles Houghton coolly said, the challenge

756
00:34:59,280 --> 00:35:01,560
Speaker 2: today is I'm not what I think I am. I'm

757
00:35:01,560 --> 00:35:04,879
Speaker 2: not what you think I am. I am what I

758
00:35:05,000 --> 00:35:07,920
Speaker 2: think you think I am. And what he's trying to

759
00:35:07,960 --> 00:35:10,799
Speaker 2: say is that we live in a perception of a

760
00:35:10,840 --> 00:35:14,680
Speaker 2: perception of ourselves. So if I think you think I'm smart,

761
00:35:15,040 --> 00:35:17,319
Speaker 2: then I allow myself to feel smart.

762
00:35:17,040 --> 00:35:19,759
Speaker 1: Right, It's like we need that, family needs that validation.

763
00:35:20,160 --> 00:35:23,960
Speaker 2: Or if I think you think I'm not smart, then

764
00:35:24,000 --> 00:35:26,680
Speaker 2: I feel hurt. And the challenges I don't know what

765
00:35:26,719 --> 00:35:29,759
Speaker 2: you're thinking at all, especially outside in the world, and

766
00:35:29,800 --> 00:35:31,560
Speaker 2: so I find out what you're saying around like, well

767
00:35:31,560 --> 00:35:33,480
Speaker 2: what do I think about myself? Like how do I

768
00:35:33,520 --> 00:35:35,440
Speaker 2: feel about myself? How do the people that actually know

769
00:35:35,560 --> 00:35:38,719
Speaker 2: me feel about me? I think that's really empowering. I

770
00:35:38,719 --> 00:35:41,400
Speaker 2: wanted to ask you because I feel like from what

771
00:35:41,400 --> 00:35:43,880
Speaker 2: I've seen and from what I've heard, you have great friendships.

772
00:35:43,920 --> 00:35:45,759
Speaker 2: You have a great question with your families. You said, like,

773
00:35:46,360 --> 00:35:49,520
Speaker 2: what do you think have been really great habits or

774
00:35:49,880 --> 00:35:52,239
Speaker 2: traits in relationships that have helped you build up good

775
00:35:52,239 --> 00:35:55,160
Speaker 2: friendships and family relationship Because I think for so many

776
00:35:55,200 --> 00:35:58,360
Speaker 2: people sometimes their friendships and their family can often be

777
00:35:58,400 --> 00:36:01,399
Speaker 2: the most difficult part. But I feel like the way

778
00:36:01,440 --> 00:36:03,480
Speaker 2: you communicate, the way you're talking about it, I'm like, Okay,

779
00:36:03,480 --> 00:36:05,759
Speaker 2: there's some really good habits in place. Yeah. Yeah. Have

780
00:36:05,800 --> 00:36:07,919
Speaker 2: there been any principles or rules that you've learned along

781
00:36:07,960 --> 00:36:09,719
Speaker 2: the way that have been helpful?

782
00:36:09,920 --> 00:36:14,120
Speaker 1: I mean, of course honesty. I'm a big person on

783
00:36:14,280 --> 00:36:20,120
Speaker 1: like keeping a really honest, healthy, communicative relationship. But I

784
00:36:20,160 --> 00:36:23,319
Speaker 1: also think, like I find it really important to have

785
00:36:24,640 --> 00:36:26,520
Speaker 1: not feel like you're on top of each other when

786
00:36:26,520 --> 00:36:28,960
Speaker 1: you have your family around or your friends around. It's

787
00:36:29,000 --> 00:36:31,759
Speaker 1: okay to like sometimes even if you're at like a

788
00:36:31,800 --> 00:36:33,640
Speaker 1: family dinner, running to the bathroom and just being like,

789
00:36:33,680 --> 00:36:35,839
Speaker 1: let me just take a couple of breaths because this

790
00:36:35,880 --> 00:36:38,279
Speaker 1: is getting overwhelming, you know what I mean. So I

791
00:36:38,360 --> 00:36:42,280
Speaker 1: just love to like take a second. My feelings are valid,

792
00:36:42,360 --> 00:36:44,840
Speaker 1: Like sometimes my family's a lot, which I bet everyone

793
00:36:44,880 --> 00:36:49,319
Speaker 1: all already knows family have a sense of crazy to them.

794
00:36:49,400 --> 00:36:53,200
Speaker 1: But I think that I can get really overwhelmed really easily.

795
00:36:53,440 --> 00:36:57,120
Speaker 1: I am prone to just you know, a good amount

796
00:36:57,120 --> 00:37:00,600
Speaker 1: of anxiety and just being extremely overwhelmed and kind of

797
00:37:00,640 --> 00:37:03,200
Speaker 1: taking everything too seriously sometimes. So I like to just

798
00:37:03,239 --> 00:37:05,600
Speaker 1: step away sometimes and just be like, this is okay.

799
00:37:05,719 --> 00:37:07,800
Speaker 1: I'm allowed to feel this way. It's valid. I'm just

800
00:37:07,840 --> 00:37:09,439
Speaker 1: gonna take a deep breath and I'm not going to react,

801
00:37:09,440 --> 00:37:10,560
Speaker 1: and then I'm gonna go back out there and I'm

802
00:37:10,560 --> 00:37:13,160
Speaker 1: gonna be fine. That's a great times I do that.

803
00:37:13,680 --> 00:37:15,719
Speaker 2: I love that. I love how easy it is. No

804
00:37:15,719 --> 00:37:19,560
Speaker 2: one needs to learn a new meditation. So sometimes that's

805
00:37:19,560 --> 00:37:22,759
Speaker 2: so yeah, it's as simple as that. I love that.

806
00:37:23,160 --> 00:37:25,640
Speaker 2: I you know, one of the things that you know

807
00:37:25,680 --> 00:37:27,719
Speaker 2: when which which really touched my heart when I saw this,

808
00:37:27,800 --> 00:37:31,280
Speaker 2: because I think when things happen in culture and everyone

809
00:37:31,280 --> 00:37:33,360
Speaker 2: talks about it, but sometimes you're like, okay, well I

810
00:37:33,360 --> 00:37:35,600
Speaker 2: can tell that there's a real connection here, like when

811
00:37:35,719 --> 00:37:38,879
Speaker 2: when you lost Virgil, Right like that, when I when

812
00:37:38,920 --> 00:37:40,759
Speaker 2: I saw your message and what you spoke about it,

813
00:37:40,800 --> 00:37:42,520
Speaker 2: I was like, wow, this is this is someone who

814
00:37:42,560 --> 00:37:44,879
Speaker 2: had a really deep connection with this individual, and going

815
00:37:44,880 --> 00:37:47,840
Speaker 2: through grief is really really tough, Like you know, people

816
00:37:47,840 --> 00:37:50,680
Speaker 2: who lose and I lost two really close people to

817
00:37:50,719 --> 00:37:54,000
Speaker 2: me during the pandemic. One was thank you. One was

818
00:37:54,120 --> 00:37:56,640
Speaker 2: one was my spiritual teacher since I was twelve years old,

819
00:37:56,960 --> 00:37:59,560
Speaker 2: and he died of stage four brain cancer and I

820
00:37:59,600 --> 00:38:02,680
Speaker 2: hadn't seen him during the pandemic. I can go back

821
00:38:02,719 --> 00:38:05,239
Speaker 2: for his because that was still when it was like yeahwn,

822
00:38:05,320 --> 00:38:08,440
Speaker 2: so he couldn't go back for his funeral, and you know,

823
00:38:08,520 --> 00:38:10,879
Speaker 2: he'd been the person who'd been such a key piece

824
00:38:10,920 --> 00:38:14,160
Speaker 2: of my world. And then the other person, pretty much

825
00:38:14,200 --> 00:38:17,560
Speaker 2: in the same year was my best friend as a monk,

826
00:38:17,600 --> 00:38:20,359
Speaker 2: so he was still a monk, wow, and he having

827
00:38:20,400 --> 00:38:22,200
Speaker 2: to get cancer and he passed to it during the pandemic.

828
00:38:22,239 --> 00:38:24,160
Speaker 2: I can see him either, and he was my age

829
00:38:24,200 --> 00:38:26,400
Speaker 2: and so to lose someone that was you know and

830
00:38:26,440 --> 00:38:28,960
Speaker 2: he was still there and so yeah and so and

831
00:38:29,000 --> 00:38:32,440
Speaker 2: so when I saw your you know, your wonderful tribute

832
00:38:32,480 --> 00:38:35,080
Speaker 2: to Virgil as well, I was like, you know, how

833
00:38:35,160 --> 00:38:37,799
Speaker 2: how do you process something like that when you know

834
00:38:37,920 --> 00:38:40,880
Speaker 2: it's not only industry friends but genuine friendship beyond that,

835
00:38:41,000 --> 00:38:42,440
Speaker 2: and just how yeah.

836
00:38:42,719 --> 00:38:45,240
Speaker 1: Well, my first thought here is why is it always

837
00:38:45,280 --> 00:38:47,920
Speaker 1: the best people? Like, why is it always these people

838
00:38:48,000 --> 00:38:52,040
Speaker 1: that are just such balls of light in everyone's life?

839
00:38:52,160 --> 00:38:54,279
Speaker 1: It's like, so you just think about it and you're like,

840
00:38:54,280 --> 00:38:56,680
Speaker 1: this is so unfair, and you're going through every emotion,

841
00:38:57,360 --> 00:39:01,879
Speaker 1: and to be honest, it was really shocking because not

842
00:39:02,000 --> 00:39:06,160
Speaker 1: everyone knew what he was going through and suffering from,

843
00:39:06,200 --> 00:39:10,279
Speaker 1: so it was really shocking. I'll never forget the day

844
00:39:10,320 --> 00:39:15,560
Speaker 1: I found out, and it just absolutely obviously breaks your

845
00:39:15,560 --> 00:39:21,080
Speaker 1: heart and you can't help but be like, oh my god,

846
00:39:21,360 --> 00:39:24,320
Speaker 1: did I ever say enough? Did I ever tell him enough?

847
00:39:24,960 --> 00:39:28,720
Speaker 1: It's really interesting to share that feeling with so many people.

848
00:39:29,280 --> 00:39:31,960
Speaker 1: It feels good in a way, and you're just like

849
00:39:32,160 --> 00:39:35,640
Speaker 1: everyone makes you feel so human, and you're sharing this

850
00:39:35,760 --> 00:39:38,879
Speaker 1: emotion with people that knew him, people that didn't know him,

851
00:39:39,160 --> 00:39:42,239
Speaker 1: people that just loved him from Afar, and it's just

852
00:39:42,880 --> 00:39:47,320
Speaker 1: a really beautiful and incredible thing to a certain degree,

853
00:39:47,360 --> 00:39:51,440
Speaker 1: but then also just obviously the most devastating thing. It

854
00:39:51,520 --> 00:39:55,160
Speaker 1: hits so hard when so many people are talking about

855
00:39:55,200 --> 00:39:57,279
Speaker 1: it and so many people are affected by it. So

856
00:39:58,000 --> 00:40:03,400
Speaker 1: it was definitely really shocking, really sad time.

857
00:40:03,880 --> 00:40:06,480
Speaker 2: Yeah, it was, yeah, yeah, and those and it's really

858
00:40:06,520 --> 00:40:08,440
Speaker 2: interesting where you said there is like why And I

859
00:40:08,480 --> 00:40:10,320
Speaker 2: had that with my spiritual teacher for sure. I was

860
00:40:10,400 --> 00:40:14,839
Speaker 2: just like like he was, you know. And and what's

861
00:40:14,880 --> 00:40:18,239
Speaker 2: really powerful about what I could at least remember from

862
00:40:18,320 --> 00:40:20,480
Speaker 2: him at that time was that even though he had

863
00:40:20,520 --> 00:40:23,239
Speaker 2: staged four brain cancer, which means he'd lost his short

864
00:40:23,320 --> 00:40:26,240
Speaker 2: term memory and a lot of his long term memories impaired,

865
00:40:26,520 --> 00:40:29,279
Speaker 2: if you ever met him, he would just thank you

866
00:40:29,360 --> 00:40:31,359
Speaker 2: for your service to God. Like he would just say

867
00:40:31,400 --> 00:40:33,600
Speaker 2: thank you for everything you're doing for other people, and

868
00:40:33,640 --> 00:40:34,760
Speaker 2: he would just be grateful.

869
00:40:35,400 --> 00:40:38,080
Speaker 4: And I was just like, that's exactly how v was too.

870
00:40:38,280 --> 00:40:45,920
Speaker 1: He was the most positive lived life, like appreciative, wanted

871
00:40:45,960 --> 00:40:49,120
Speaker 1: to say yes to everything, wanted to just be there

872
00:40:49,160 --> 00:40:52,799
Speaker 1: for everyone. You could literally ask him to design a

873
00:40:52,800 --> 00:40:55,000
Speaker 1: pencil for you and he would be like, it'll be

874
00:40:55,040 --> 00:40:57,799
Speaker 1: done tomorrow. What else do you need? Like he just

875
00:40:58,040 --> 00:41:02,200
Speaker 1: had so much to give and he gave it. And

876
00:41:02,520 --> 00:41:06,160
Speaker 1: that wasn't that was pre his diagnosis. That was like,

877
00:41:06,480 --> 00:41:09,879
Speaker 1: that was just who Virgil was. And so to then

878
00:41:10,000 --> 00:41:12,319
Speaker 1: find out what he found out at a certain point

879
00:41:12,360 --> 00:41:14,399
Speaker 1: in his life and still be that person and still

880
00:41:14,440 --> 00:41:16,600
Speaker 1: like I'm going to show up for everyone, and like,

881
00:41:17,480 --> 00:41:20,160
Speaker 1: my time here is so special to all these other

882
00:41:20,200 --> 00:41:23,279
Speaker 1: people and I'm going to like be here to make

883
00:41:23,320 --> 00:41:27,080
Speaker 1: them feel amazing. It's just like unreal, Like it makes

884
00:41:27,080 --> 00:41:31,360
Speaker 1: you just be like what, Like how how could you

885
00:41:31,440 --> 00:41:34,520
Speaker 1: be that incredible and giving? Like that is so crazy?

886
00:41:34,680 --> 00:41:37,000
Speaker 1: There wasn't a selfish bone in that man's body, like

887
00:41:37,080 --> 00:41:39,640
Speaker 1: he was just the best. Yeah, but I'm sorry to

888
00:41:39,640 --> 00:41:40,920
Speaker 1: hear about your Oh.

889
00:41:40,800 --> 00:41:44,080
Speaker 2: No, No, I think it's actually nice speaking about people

890
00:41:44,120 --> 00:41:47,160
Speaker 2: that we both love in a similar way, even though

891
00:41:47,160 --> 00:41:50,280
Speaker 2: they're in such different places in life doing very different things.

892
00:41:50,719 --> 00:41:52,920
Speaker 2: But to talk about someone's and I think that's a

893
00:41:52,920 --> 00:41:54,760
Speaker 2: big part of it for me, at least with grief,

894
00:41:54,800 --> 00:41:57,120
Speaker 2: that I feel like when I talk about the beautiful

895
00:41:57,200 --> 00:42:00,640
Speaker 2: qualities of the people that I lost, it gives me

896
00:42:00,719 --> 00:42:05,239
Speaker 2: so much confidence that they want me to live it

897
00:42:05,600 --> 00:42:07,640
Speaker 2: and they want me to try and embody it, and

898
00:42:07,680 --> 00:42:10,640
Speaker 2: that how fortunate we are to have experienced that type

899
00:42:10,640 --> 00:42:11,280
Speaker 2: of humanity.

900
00:42:11,480 --> 00:42:14,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, And those are my thoughts of him. Like, I

901
00:42:14,920 --> 00:42:17,080
Speaker 1: think all we ever really want is human beings, is

902
00:42:17,120 --> 00:42:19,440
Speaker 1: to be you know, when we do leave this earth,

903
00:42:19,480 --> 00:42:23,359
Speaker 1: we want to be remembered so beautifully and positively positively. Ali,

904
00:42:23,440 --> 00:42:25,600
Speaker 1: I know at least I do, of course, but like

905
00:42:26,000 --> 00:42:28,720
Speaker 1: you just want, you of course want to make people

906
00:42:28,760 --> 00:42:32,160
Speaker 1: feel something, and he made so many people feel something,

907
00:42:32,160 --> 00:42:35,080
Speaker 1: and for that it is so special, like what they

908
00:42:35,120 --> 00:42:37,200
Speaker 1: say that we, you know, we have our purpose here,

909
00:42:37,239 --> 00:42:40,200
Speaker 1: and I know that he fulfilled a purpose here that

910
00:42:40,239 --> 00:42:43,280
Speaker 1: he was supposed to fulfill, and I think that that's

911
00:42:43,480 --> 00:42:46,319
Speaker 1: I think about it beautifully, Like I obviously it's a

912
00:42:46,440 --> 00:42:51,239
Speaker 1: very very sad situation and it breaks my heart, but

913
00:42:52,000 --> 00:42:54,440
Speaker 1: I have nothing but beautiful thoughts of him, and I

914
00:42:54,480 --> 00:42:56,400
Speaker 1: think that's really cool and really special.

915
00:42:56,480 --> 00:42:58,640
Speaker 2: So yeah, thank you for sharing that too. And I

916
00:42:59,120 --> 00:43:02,080
Speaker 2: had to ask you because yeah, I just I feel

917
00:43:02,280 --> 00:43:05,120
Speaker 2: I love hearing amazing things about amazing people that you know,

918
00:43:05,160 --> 00:43:07,279
Speaker 2: because I think so many of the most incredible people

919
00:43:07,320 --> 00:43:09,839
Speaker 2: I grew up reading about people that I never met,

920
00:43:10,160 --> 00:43:12,520
Speaker 2: and I spent a lot of my life studying books

921
00:43:12,520 --> 00:43:14,840
Speaker 2: about people that I never met, some Malcolm X and

922
00:43:14,880 --> 00:43:17,720
Speaker 2: Martin Luther King and Einstein and people that I really

923
00:43:17,719 --> 00:43:20,200
Speaker 2: see as people that have directed so much of my

924
00:43:20,320 --> 00:43:24,520
Speaker 2: life from how they lived. And I feel like he

925
00:43:24,640 --> 00:43:26,839
Speaker 2: was potentially one of those people that I never met him,

926
00:43:26,840 --> 00:43:28,919
Speaker 2: but whenever I hear about him, I'm just like sure,

927
00:43:28,960 --> 00:43:30,800
Speaker 2: Oh this is someone that we could learn from. You

928
00:43:31,560 --> 00:43:34,279
Speaker 2: spoke about purpose there. I was wondering, how is your

929
00:43:34,320 --> 00:43:37,840
Speaker 2: purpose changed? You had this very confident view of I

930
00:43:37,880 --> 00:43:41,000
Speaker 2: want to be a mono. You know you've superseded, exceeded,

931
00:43:41,040 --> 00:43:44,200
Speaker 2: and continue to flourish in that world, and I always

932
00:43:44,239 --> 00:43:47,399
Speaker 2: wish that you do. How has your purpose evolved as

933
00:43:47,400 --> 00:43:48,239
Speaker 2: that time's gone on.

934
00:43:48,880 --> 00:43:50,719
Speaker 1: I think I've learned a lot. I've learned a lot

935
00:43:50,920 --> 00:43:54,359
Speaker 1: about myself about what I want from my life, and

936
00:43:54,440 --> 00:43:56,440
Speaker 1: which is kind of what we've been talking about. But

937
00:43:57,480 --> 00:44:01,520
Speaker 1: I'm actually really excited to get older and to learn

938
00:44:01,680 --> 00:44:05,560
Speaker 1: so much more about not only myself, but like the

939
00:44:05,680 --> 00:44:08,560
Speaker 1: journey and the path that I guess want to take

940
00:44:08,640 --> 00:44:12,200
Speaker 1: and want to be on. So I'd say, you know,

941
00:44:12,280 --> 00:44:17,200
Speaker 1: my purpose has evolved from obviously within business, doing what

942
00:44:17,280 --> 00:44:20,200
Speaker 1: I want to do and making sure I'm happy and

943
00:44:20,320 --> 00:44:22,520
Speaker 1: finding the thing that I love and all those things.

944
00:44:23,040 --> 00:44:26,120
Speaker 1: But I've kind of, like I said, really tuned into

945
00:44:26,200 --> 00:44:28,600
Speaker 1: me and I think my purpose at least at this

946
00:44:28,719 --> 00:44:32,279
Speaker 1: very moment, and what I've kind of evolved into is

947
00:44:32,440 --> 00:44:35,239
Speaker 1: my higher Goddess, like I am determined to tune into

948
00:44:35,280 --> 00:44:39,520
Speaker 1: her at all times. But also as I get older,

949
00:44:39,840 --> 00:44:44,640
Speaker 1: I have so much that I want to connect with

950
00:44:44,760 --> 00:44:48,799
Speaker 1: other people and with you know, aka social media and

951
00:44:48,880 --> 00:44:52,160
Speaker 1: people that may not know me personally, and just you

952
00:44:52,200 --> 00:44:55,000
Speaker 1: know the following. Like I said, I was given this

953
00:44:55,200 --> 00:44:58,160
Speaker 1: life for some reason, for whatever reason, I was placed here,

954
00:44:58,560 --> 00:45:03,120
Speaker 1: and I do feel a per to share and connect

955
00:45:03,400 --> 00:45:06,680
Speaker 1: and put a smile on people's faces or make someone

956
00:45:06,680 --> 00:45:09,920
Speaker 1: feel a positive feeling. And so I think that within

957
00:45:10,040 --> 00:45:13,320
Speaker 1: me wanting to achieve me tuning into my higher goddess,

958
00:45:13,360 --> 00:45:17,360
Speaker 1: I think that also entails me being a great version

959
00:45:17,400 --> 00:45:22,040
Speaker 1: of myself for other people to then experience, and my

960
00:45:22,200 --> 00:45:25,279
Speaker 1: tips and my tools, whatever I can share, whatever help

961
00:45:25,320 --> 00:45:29,040
Speaker 1: I can give. I I really, you know, as corny

962
00:45:29,080 --> 00:45:31,359
Speaker 1: as it sounds, I want to spread like I want

963
00:45:31,400 --> 00:45:35,160
Speaker 1: people to feel love. That's really I guess the purpose.

964
00:45:35,440 --> 00:45:36,920
Speaker 2: Yeah that's beautiful.

965
00:45:36,960 --> 00:45:39,239
Speaker 4: I mean we'll thank you, right, yeah.

966
00:45:39,280 --> 00:45:41,440
Speaker 2: And it is funny that so much of the stuff

967
00:45:41,440 --> 00:45:43,760
Speaker 2: that is corny or you know whatever, that's the stuff

968
00:45:43,800 --> 00:45:46,480
Speaker 2: that's true, right, That's the stuff it is.

969
00:45:46,680 --> 00:45:49,480
Speaker 1: Like, there's also just we all just like live in

970
00:45:49,560 --> 00:45:52,600
Speaker 1: such a it's an interesting time obviously, and it can

971
00:45:52,640 --> 00:45:57,120
Speaker 1: feel really negative. And I tend to stay off of

972
00:45:57,680 --> 00:46:01,080
Speaker 1: platforms like social media platforms because it's hard to look

973
00:46:01,120 --> 00:46:03,160
Speaker 1: at it sometimes and it feels really negative. So I

974
00:46:03,160 --> 00:46:04,680
Speaker 1: feel like we all just need a little bit of

975
00:46:04,880 --> 00:46:06,120
Speaker 1: a smile sometimes.

976
00:46:06,200 --> 00:46:10,359
Speaker 2: I agree. I agree. I post these videos every day

977
00:46:10,400 --> 00:46:13,799
Speaker 2: which are just these fun, silly things that happen yeah

978
00:46:13,800 --> 00:46:16,279
Speaker 2: old that my team will find, I'll find, and I

979
00:46:16,320 --> 00:46:18,319
Speaker 2: post them every day literally for that reason, and that

980
00:46:18,400 --> 00:46:20,839
Speaker 2: reason only because I'm like, I may or may say,

981
00:46:21,040 --> 00:46:23,320
Speaker 2: may or may not say something that makes someone smile,

982
00:46:23,760 --> 00:46:27,839
Speaker 2: but this definitely, like this without will bring some joy.

983
00:46:28,880 --> 00:46:31,000
Speaker 2: And if this is the only joy that someone experienced,

984
00:46:31,040 --> 00:46:32,640
Speaker 2: I want them to see good in the world and

985
00:46:32,719 --> 00:46:33,719
Speaker 2: believe that there's good in the wa.

986
00:46:33,800 --> 00:46:36,680
Speaker 1: That's one of my favorite things to see on TikTok.

987
00:46:36,719 --> 00:46:38,040
Speaker 1: When I sit in my bed at night and fall

988
00:46:38,120 --> 00:46:41,360
Speaker 1: victim to TikTok, I love to see there's people that

989
00:46:41,400 --> 00:46:45,400
Speaker 1: I'll post, like here's like five amazing facts that have

990
00:46:45,440 --> 00:46:47,200
Speaker 1: happened in the world in the last couple of weeks

991
00:46:47,320 --> 00:46:50,400
Speaker 1: or whatever, and it'll be like the you know, pandas

992
00:46:50,400 --> 00:46:53,320
Speaker 1: are not extinct anymore, and like the very great barrier

993
00:46:53,320 --> 00:46:55,160
Speaker 1: reef is coming back and stuff like that, and so

994
00:46:55,200 --> 00:46:56,240
Speaker 1: I'm like, that's so cool.

995
00:46:56,560 --> 00:46:59,239
Speaker 2: That's what I want to hear exactly. And you know,

996
00:46:59,320 --> 00:47:01,319
Speaker 2: if it was like it's going down, it's like it's

997
00:47:01,320 --> 00:47:02,799
Speaker 2: going to get a lot of likes and hits, but

998
00:47:03,280 --> 00:47:03,960
Speaker 2: it's going up.

999
00:47:05,920 --> 00:47:08,680
Speaker 1: Why do we like gravitate towards the negative so much?

1000
00:47:08,920 --> 00:47:10,240
Speaker 1: Like very interesting?

1001
00:47:10,239 --> 00:47:13,800
Speaker 2: We have to retrain I genuinely believe it's just a pattern.

1002
00:47:14,200 --> 00:47:17,960
Speaker 2: It's a pattern and a habit that's been so long, absolutely,

1003
00:47:18,000 --> 00:47:20,760
Speaker 2: and we have to retrain ourselves clickbait.

1004
00:47:20,360 --> 00:47:22,840
Speaker 1: Of it all and the whole thing. And we're like,

1005
00:47:23,560 --> 00:47:26,239
Speaker 1: that's going downhill. I need to see what's happening, and

1006
00:47:26,280 --> 00:47:29,200
Speaker 1: we're just like, we do need to retrain our brains.

1007
00:47:29,200 --> 00:47:30,279
Speaker 1: It's exactly what it is.

1008
00:47:30,520 --> 00:47:32,279
Speaker 2: Yeah, And it starts with what you said earlier. It

1009
00:47:32,320 --> 00:47:35,200
Speaker 2: starts with how we see ourselves. It is all from that.

1010
00:47:35,280 --> 00:47:38,000
Speaker 2: If someone looks in the mirror as you were saying earlier,

1011
00:47:38,160 --> 00:47:40,640
Speaker 2: or if someone just reflects on themselves, not in the

1012
00:47:41,080 --> 00:47:45,720
Speaker 2: physically but just internally. Yeah, most of us will spot

1013
00:47:45,800 --> 00:47:48,319
Speaker 2: all the negative things about ourselves and then we take

1014
00:47:48,360 --> 00:47:50,120
Speaker 2: that out into the world and spot all the negative

1015
00:47:50,160 --> 00:47:52,480
Speaker 2: things about everyone else, and then we take that out

1016
00:47:52,480 --> 00:47:53,920
Speaker 2: into social media.

1017
00:47:54,440 --> 00:47:57,960
Speaker 4: So that just propels from all.

1018
00:47:58,040 --> 00:48:00,439
Speaker 2: Yeah, if we ask someone to sit down and write down.

1019
00:48:00,640 --> 00:48:03,239
Speaker 2: As you said, we feel uncomfortable taking a compliment, or

1020
00:48:03,400 --> 00:48:04,800
Speaker 2: we feel uncomfortable.

1021
00:48:04,320 --> 00:48:06,960
Speaker 1: Saying saying nice about herself, so exactly.

1022
00:48:06,520 --> 00:48:09,240
Speaker 2: And so it all starts with our relationship with ourselves.

1023
00:48:09,239 --> 00:48:12,040
Speaker 2: If we were able to find three good things about

1024
00:48:12,040 --> 00:48:14,799
Speaker 2: ourselves today, I promise you're going to find three good

1025
00:48:14,800 --> 00:48:16,600
Speaker 2: things about the person sitting in front of you, and

1026
00:48:16,920 --> 00:48:18,400
Speaker 2: that will right exactly.

1027
00:48:19,080 --> 00:48:22,680
Speaker 1: I do a lot of like inner child work with

1028
00:48:22,719 --> 00:48:26,360
Speaker 1: my therapist, and there's actually a trend on TikTok that

1029
00:48:26,440 --> 00:48:29,600
Speaker 1: was going around, but coincidentally enough, we ended up naturally

1030
00:48:29,600 --> 00:48:32,160
Speaker 1: speaking about it in my session and it was like

1031
00:48:32,200 --> 00:48:35,560
Speaker 1: this trend on TikTok. I guess that was like a

1032
00:48:35,640 --> 00:48:39,600
Speaker 1: girl being like, anytime you're being mean to yourself, just

1033
00:48:39,640 --> 00:48:41,400
Speaker 1: think this is who you're talking about. And then it

1034
00:48:41,440 --> 00:48:43,160
Speaker 1: flashes to like a photo of her as a kid,

1035
00:48:43,719 --> 00:48:46,520
Speaker 1: and so I me and my therapist were talking about

1036
00:48:46,520 --> 00:48:49,000
Speaker 1: something similar and she was like, why don't you find

1037
00:48:49,000 --> 00:48:50,680
Speaker 1: like a photo of yourself and put it on your

1038
00:48:50,719 --> 00:48:54,640
Speaker 1: bathroom mirror so that every morning, every night, every day,

1039
00:48:54,680 --> 00:48:56,680
Speaker 1: when you walk into your bathroom mirror, you're looking at

1040
00:48:56,719 --> 00:48:59,120
Speaker 1: her and you're remembering that. If there's anything negative that

1041
00:48:59,120 --> 00:49:00,880
Speaker 1: you're ever saying about your if you're ever being mean

1042
00:49:00,920 --> 00:49:04,359
Speaker 1: to yourself, you're talking about her. And so I did that,

1043
00:49:04,480 --> 00:49:06,840
Speaker 1: and I went into my I went into like my

1044
00:49:06,920 --> 00:49:09,640
Speaker 1: memorabilia closet in my house, and I was looking through

1045
00:49:09,680 --> 00:49:11,800
Speaker 1: old like photo books. And I've seen these photo books

1046
00:49:11,840 --> 00:49:14,000
Speaker 1: my whole life. I've literally seen every photo that's been

1047
00:49:14,040 --> 00:49:16,840
Speaker 1: in here. And I like flipped to a page and

1048
00:49:16,840 --> 00:49:19,000
Speaker 1: there was a photo I'd never seen of myself ever.

1049
00:49:19,280 --> 00:49:21,480
Speaker 1: It was a polaroid, so it was the original photo

1050
00:49:22,280 --> 00:49:24,520
Speaker 1: and it was just me as a little girl with

1051
00:49:24,520 --> 00:49:25,960
Speaker 1: a bow in my hair out and a dress on,

1052
00:49:26,040 --> 00:49:28,040
Speaker 1: and I have like a little alien tattoo or something

1053
00:49:28,120 --> 00:49:31,000
Speaker 1: right here, and I'm like, have this big cheesy smile

1054
00:49:31,080 --> 00:49:32,760
Speaker 1: on my face. And I was like, that's the photo

1055
00:49:32,800 --> 00:49:34,239
Speaker 1: I'm putting on my thing. I can show you the

1056
00:49:34,280 --> 00:49:36,240
Speaker 1: photo later. I have a picture of it on my phone.

1057
00:49:36,280 --> 00:49:40,120
Speaker 1: But so I pasted it on my bathroom mirror, and

1058
00:49:40,160 --> 00:49:42,399
Speaker 1: I talked to her. And I'm always like, if I'm

1059
00:49:42,440 --> 00:49:44,880
Speaker 1: ever looking in the mirror and being negative towards myself

1060
00:49:44,960 --> 00:49:46,920
Speaker 1: or anything, I always look right over to her and

1061
00:49:46,960 --> 00:49:49,719
Speaker 1: I'm like, she's dope, and I love her. And so

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00:49:50,440 --> 00:49:52,279
Speaker 1: It's just another way of just self life.

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00:49:52,280 --> 00:49:54,160
Speaker 2: I love that. That's such a great tool. That's such

1064
00:49:54,200 --> 00:49:56,239
Speaker 2: a great too. My team found a kid picture of

1065
00:49:56,239 --> 00:49:58,080
Speaker 2: me and made an embarrassing of that trend.

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00:49:58,120 --> 00:50:00,880
Speaker 1: So I'll show you that too, Okay, so you know it.

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00:50:01,000 --> 00:50:05,400
Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly exactly as well, Keto. You were saying earlier

1068
00:50:05,440 --> 00:50:07,319
Speaker 2: that you know you you wanted to come here, and

1069
00:50:07,360 --> 00:50:09,719
Speaker 2: you you wanted to share and manifested, and there were

1070
00:50:09,719 --> 00:50:11,120
Speaker 2: things you wanted to share. What is it that's on

1071
00:50:11,160 --> 00:50:14,120
Speaker 2: your heart that you've wanted to share that Maybe we

1072
00:50:14,160 --> 00:50:15,960
Speaker 2: didn't go there today already, or is there something on

1073
00:50:16,000 --> 00:50:19,080
Speaker 2: your mind and heart, is an experience or any anything

1074
00:50:19,120 --> 00:50:22,680
Speaker 2: that really drew you here and made this happen, right, Like,

1075
00:50:23,920 --> 00:50:24,759
Speaker 2: I want to honor that.

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00:50:25,040 --> 00:50:27,880
Speaker 1: I think we've obviously we've honestly touched a lot of

1077
00:50:27,920 --> 00:50:29,839
Speaker 1: what I felt like I would have loved to get

1078
00:50:29,880 --> 00:50:32,799
Speaker 1: off my heart. I don't know. I was really excited,

1079
00:50:32,880 --> 00:50:38,200
Speaker 1: honestly to come here and share a little bit of

1080
00:50:38,239 --> 00:50:42,080
Speaker 1: me that I feel is very sometimes scary for me

1081
00:50:42,160 --> 00:50:44,680
Speaker 1: to share. And like I said, I came in here

1082
00:50:44,680 --> 00:50:46,520
Speaker 1: and I was a little nervous because this is important

1083
00:50:46,560 --> 00:50:50,480
Speaker 1: to me, and like this part of you know everyone's

1084
00:50:50,560 --> 00:50:54,200
Speaker 1: journey and what we're talking about today is it's so important.

1085
00:50:54,600 --> 00:50:56,839
Speaker 1: I really that was I guess my intention here today

1086
00:50:56,960 --> 00:50:58,839
Speaker 1: was to come in and share a little bit of

1087
00:50:58,880 --> 00:51:03,120
Speaker 1: me and maybe for whoever's watching, they find some comfort

1088
00:51:03,160 --> 00:51:06,360
Speaker 1: in this, or some joy from this, or they understand

1089
00:51:06,440 --> 00:51:08,360
Speaker 1: me a little bit more, you know what I mean. So,

1090
00:51:08,719 --> 00:51:11,359
Speaker 1: I think that we've hit a lot of really cool

1091
00:51:11,400 --> 00:51:14,200
Speaker 1: points and yeah, I mean I feel I feel really

1092
00:51:14,239 --> 00:51:15,000
Speaker 1: good good.

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00:51:15,040 --> 00:51:18,160
Speaker 2: I wanted to honor that. I asked that because you know,

1094
00:51:18,160 --> 00:51:20,640
Speaker 2: I think I think when when you feel you're in

1095
00:51:20,680 --> 00:51:22,920
Speaker 2: that flow with someone and yeah, I feel like, you know,

1096
00:51:23,280 --> 00:51:25,040
Speaker 2: we've learned so many new things about you today, and

1097
00:51:25,080 --> 00:51:27,319
Speaker 2: there's so many moments where I'm like, I just feel

1098
00:51:27,400 --> 00:51:30,480
Speaker 2: like you're so comfortable and you've been so open with us.

1099
00:51:30,480 --> 00:51:32,200
Speaker 2: But I just wanted to honor that thank you, to

1100
00:51:32,239 --> 00:51:34,359
Speaker 2: make sure that you feel that you've really felt heard

1101
00:51:34,400 --> 00:51:34,960
Speaker 2: and seeing it.

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00:51:35,040 --> 00:51:39,520
Speaker 4: I appreciate that thank you so.

1103
00:51:37,800 --> 00:51:39,560
Speaker 1: So we all want to just be understood at the

1104
00:51:39,640 --> 00:51:40,200
Speaker 1: end of the day.

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00:51:41,160 --> 00:51:46,120
Speaker 2: I think the closer you get to people humans, the

1106
00:51:46,160 --> 00:51:48,720
Speaker 2: closer you get to people of different backgrounds and different

1107
00:51:48,719 --> 00:51:53,399
Speaker 2: walks of life, the more you start to recognize how similar.

1108
00:51:53,120 --> 00:51:55,520
Speaker 4: We all are, yeah, exactly, and how many.

1109
00:51:55,360 --> 00:51:59,279
Speaker 2: Challenges we all share, despite how much money someone has

1110
00:51:59,280 --> 00:52:01,440
Speaker 2: in the bank, despite how much fame someone has, despite

1111
00:52:01,480 --> 00:52:04,319
Speaker 2: how much follows someone as And what we find is

1112
00:52:04,360 --> 00:52:06,799
Speaker 2: that everyone feels their own guilt for where they are,

1113
00:52:06,920 --> 00:52:09,200
Speaker 2: and everyone feels their own pressure for where they are,

1114
00:52:09,280 --> 00:52:11,360
Speaker 2: and everyone feels their own challenge for where they and

1115
00:52:11,360 --> 00:52:13,640
Speaker 2: you just start to realize that we all have the

1116
00:52:13,800 --> 00:52:17,160
Speaker 2: same emotions in different mixes.

1117
00:52:17,280 --> 00:52:19,960
Speaker 1: Yeah, we're all just having a human experience exactly. We're

1118
00:52:20,000 --> 00:52:23,120
Speaker 1: all just going day by day. I think we all

1119
00:52:23,120 --> 00:52:24,759
Speaker 1: need to be a little bit kinder to each other

1120
00:52:24,920 --> 00:52:28,799
Speaker 1: and just take it easy on some people because we are.

1121
00:52:29,320 --> 00:52:33,080
Speaker 1: We're all we all have our own struggles. And I

1122
00:52:33,080 --> 00:52:36,120
Speaker 1: don't know, I'm an EmPATH, so I like feel for

1123
00:52:36,280 --> 00:52:40,840
Speaker 1: things and I feel for people and yeah.

1124
00:52:40,440 --> 00:52:42,680
Speaker 2: Yeah, and it starts with you the person.

1125
00:52:43,040 --> 00:52:53,200
Speaker 3: Yeah, it's exactly. Tell yourself with yourself.

1126
00:52:53,320 --> 00:52:55,879
Speaker 2: If you can be kinder to yourself, chances are you're

1127
00:52:55,920 --> 00:52:58,400
Speaker 2: going to be I found that the days I stop

1128
00:52:58,520 --> 00:53:03,120
Speaker 2: judging myself of judging others, because it changed how I

1129
00:53:03,120 --> 00:53:06,960
Speaker 2: saw humanities. Yeah, Ken do we end every on Purpose

1130
00:53:06,960 --> 00:53:10,200
Speaker 2: episode with a final five, which is a fast five round.

1131
00:53:10,560 --> 00:53:13,400
Speaker 2: I ask you a question and you answer it with

1132
00:53:13,480 --> 00:53:15,879
Speaker 2: a one word or one sentence maximum, so it's super

1133
00:53:15,960 --> 00:53:17,959
Speaker 2: quick and share. Okay, okay, and we have to whisk

1134
00:53:18,040 --> 00:53:19,480
Speaker 2: you away because you need to you need to go

1135
00:53:19,520 --> 00:53:22,720
Speaker 2: to your next appointment. But okay, So the first question

1136
00:53:22,840 --> 00:53:25,480
Speaker 2: is what's something you're curious about right now?

1137
00:53:25,960 --> 00:53:32,799
Speaker 1: Ooh, I am super curious about I was saying how

1138
00:53:32,800 --> 00:53:36,440
Speaker 1: I love Michael Singer, and I think what I really love.

1139
00:53:36,520 --> 00:53:39,040
Speaker 1: I'm reading The Surrender Experiment right now, and I'm only

1140
00:53:39,040 --> 00:53:41,160
Speaker 1: in the first couple chapters, so he's basically this is

1141
00:53:41,200 --> 00:53:45,920
Speaker 1: not a quick answer. He's basically the first part of

1142
00:53:46,120 --> 00:53:48,759
Speaker 1: the book where he's talking about how he was curious

1143
00:53:48,800 --> 00:53:51,759
Speaker 1: about meditation and how he got into meditation and how

1144
00:53:51,760 --> 00:53:53,400
Speaker 1: he really just was like on a trip with his

1145
00:53:53,719 --> 00:53:55,759
Speaker 1: friends and his girlfriend in the woods and like sat

1146
00:53:55,800 --> 00:53:57,680
Speaker 1: in a corner or sat at a tree and was like,

1147
00:53:57,760 --> 00:53:59,399
Speaker 1: I'm going to just really dive into this and see

1148
00:53:59,400 --> 00:54:02,200
Speaker 1: what happens. That's what I'm curious about right now is

1149
00:54:02,320 --> 00:54:04,680
Speaker 1: just actually, like I meditate, I do a lot of

1150
00:54:04,680 --> 00:54:07,839
Speaker 1: breathing work, breathing exercises, and I just really want to

1151
00:54:07,880 --> 00:54:11,319
Speaker 1: tap in. Yeah, like Michael Singer did I love that.

1152
00:54:11,280 --> 00:54:14,239
Speaker 2: That's a great answer. That's a great answer. Circond question,

1153
00:54:14,280 --> 00:54:16,520
Speaker 2: if there's anything that you're working on personally right now?

1154
00:54:16,600 --> 00:54:17,960
Speaker 2: What are you working on on yourself?

1155
00:54:18,000 --> 00:54:22,839
Speaker 1: Is there any Yes, I'm working on I'm working on boundaries,

1156
00:54:23,000 --> 00:54:27,480
Speaker 1: and I'm working on not a stressor like I can

1157
00:54:27,520 --> 00:54:31,400
Speaker 1: stress about things in my mind and I overthink and

1158
00:54:31,440 --> 00:54:34,720
Speaker 1: I just so I'm really working on like calming down

1159
00:54:35,080 --> 00:54:38,640
Speaker 1: and just letting things flow better and not being so

1160
00:54:38,840 --> 00:54:41,280
Speaker 1: controlling over things, especially that I can't control.

1161
00:54:41,600 --> 00:54:46,360
Speaker 2: Love it. Question number three, what's your favorite thing about founding?

1162
00:54:46,520 --> 00:54:49,920
Speaker 2: Eight one eight ooh, being an entrepreneur, being a founder?

1163
00:54:50,239 --> 00:54:54,240
Speaker 1: Probably that Like I, I, you know, was a model

1164
00:54:54,360 --> 00:54:57,000
Speaker 1: and I worked for people a lot. I kind of

1165
00:54:57,040 --> 00:55:00,120
Speaker 1: love being my own boss and really being able to

1166
00:55:00,400 --> 00:55:04,160
Speaker 1: have my own creative a place where I can be

1167
00:55:04,280 --> 00:55:07,680
Speaker 1: creative and just really express my creativity and have so

1168
00:55:07,800 --> 00:55:10,279
Speaker 1: much fun doing all of that creative stuff. And I've

1169
00:55:10,360 --> 00:55:13,120
Speaker 1: learned so much and learning about the culture and learning

1170
00:55:13,160 --> 00:55:16,160
Speaker 1: about the tequila and everything. Like I've just had the

1171
00:55:16,160 --> 00:55:16,680
Speaker 1: best time.

1172
00:55:16,800 --> 00:55:19,879
Speaker 2: So I love that question Before what's something you used

1173
00:55:19,920 --> 00:55:21,680
Speaker 2: to value but you don't value anymore?

1174
00:55:23,120 --> 00:55:30,400
Speaker 1: Validation? I don't care anymore, at least I'm telling myself that, yeah,

1175
00:55:30,480 --> 00:55:34,239
Speaker 1: we have to first right, No, but it's true, Like

1176
00:55:34,320 --> 00:55:37,520
Speaker 1: I used to care so much more about validation, I

1177
00:55:37,600 --> 00:55:40,600
Speaker 1: really don't care anymore at least, thank you.

1178
00:55:41,200 --> 00:55:43,759
Speaker 2: Fifth and final question. If you could create one law

1179
00:55:44,120 --> 00:55:46,200
Speaker 2: that everyone in the world had to follow, what would

1180
00:55:46,200 --> 00:55:46,440
Speaker 2: it be.

1181
00:55:47,080 --> 00:55:51,160
Speaker 1: Oh, I would do like on like a Sunday, you

1182
00:55:51,239 --> 00:55:53,279
Speaker 1: have to take half the day and like not look

1183
00:55:53,320 --> 00:55:54,359
Speaker 1: at your phone or something.

1184
00:55:54,840 --> 00:55:58,080
Speaker 2: I love that's leg That's great, right, yeah.

1185
00:55:58,040 --> 00:56:01,279
Speaker 1: Kind of nice. Or the full day really crazy? I

1186
00:56:01,440 --> 00:56:02,120
Speaker 1: love that idea.

1187
00:56:02,560 --> 00:56:05,840
Speaker 2: I love that. Kendel Jenner. Everyone, this was amazing, Kendal,

1188
00:56:05,960 --> 00:56:10,279
Speaker 2: this honestly, and I'm excited to catch up afterwards too.

1189
00:56:10,360 --> 00:56:12,800
Speaker 2: But there was just so much flow and synergy in

1190
00:56:12,840 --> 00:56:15,160
Speaker 2: this whole thing happening, and I couldn't thank you more

1191
00:56:15,239 --> 00:56:18,920
Speaker 2: for doing this with me here on on purpose. And

1192
00:56:19,239 --> 00:56:20,839
Speaker 2: I hope that this is the first and many times

1193
00:56:20,880 --> 00:56:23,080
Speaker 2: that will do this, but I hope it's the beginning

1194
00:56:23,120 --> 00:56:26,880
Speaker 2: of a beautiful friendship and relationship. And I want to

1195
00:56:27,120 --> 00:56:29,440
Speaker 2: everyone who's been listening or watching back at home, please

1196
00:56:29,800 --> 00:56:31,640
Speaker 2: let me and Kendle know, tag us, letting us know

1197
00:56:32,080 --> 00:56:34,640
Speaker 2: what resonated with you, what connected with you, like, what

1198
00:56:34,920 --> 00:56:37,320
Speaker 2: was it that you've got curious about, or what was

1199
00:56:37,400 --> 00:56:40,080
Speaker 2: something she said that just shifted your perspective or where

1200
00:56:40,080 --> 00:56:42,000
Speaker 2: you learned something new. I'd love to hear it. I

1201
00:56:42,120 --> 00:56:44,480
Speaker 2: know there are tons of moments for me where I

1202
00:56:44,719 --> 00:56:47,520
Speaker 2: was listening going this is amazing, this is incredible, This

1203
00:56:47,640 --> 00:56:50,239
Speaker 2: is awesome. So any wisdom nuggets that stuck out to you,

1204
00:56:50,360 --> 00:56:53,160
Speaker 2: please let us know because I love seeing what made

1205
00:56:53,200 --> 00:56:55,799
Speaker 2: a difference in your life as well. And a big

1206
00:56:55,880 --> 00:56:58,760
Speaker 2: thank you to Kendall for opening our heart and opening.

1207
00:56:58,640 --> 00:56:59,080
Speaker 4: Up our mind.

1208
00:56:59,120 --> 00:57:01,320
Speaker 1: Thank you too, honored, Thank you so much.

1209
00:57:01,440 --> 00:57:03,360
Speaker 2: Thank you so much. That's amazing.

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