Kendall Jenner ON: Setting Boundaries to Increase Happiness & Healing Your Inner Child
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Today, I sit down with the one and only Kendall Jenner. Kendall is a successful business founder, international supermodel, founder of the incredibly successful tequila brand, 818, and star on the Hulu’s, the Kardashians, which premieres in its second season on September 22nd.
Kendal shows us a different side of her as she shares how her curiosity for people with brilliant minds and doing so much to give back to the world has eventually led to this interview. Behind the glamor and spotlight, she especially enjoys having some time alone with herself, and she values the importance of setting boundaries and why we should do things that lead to genuine happiness. We talk about her childhood and her love for animals, how the simple things give her the most joys, getting through grief after losing a dear friend, and finding the heart to be more kind to your inner child.
Kendall remains grounded and in tune with her inner goddess and is not allowing negativity and ill intentions change who she is, who she may become, and the purpose she is living by.
What We Discuss:
- 00:00:00 Intro
- 00:00:26 “I think I manifested this interview…”
- 00:09:53 “I grew up in a horse community.”
- 00:15:42 Craving the simple things
- 00:18:51 Setting boundaries for yourself
- 00:21:46 Putting yourself first
- 00:27:15 It’s important to be happy
- 00:28:51 Reassuring yourself of who you really are
- 00:33:06 Sometimes, family can be overwhelming
- 00:35:54 Losing a dear friend
- 00:40:53 Finding a new purpose
- 00:45:38 Stop being mean to your inner child
- 00:50:24 Kendall on Final Five
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Speaker 1: If your happiness depends on the actions of others, you know,
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Speaker 1: manifested this, Like it's the after I saw you at
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Speaker 1: Simmy and Hayes's house. So that was a couple months ago.
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Speaker 1: And then a few weeks ago, my I was talking
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Speaker 1: And I was like, it would be so cool to
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Speaker 2: So happy because it was exactly the opposite way. So
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Speaker 2: I've for a long time had people that I'd love
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Speaker 2: she's amazing, Like, you know, it's incredible to the way
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Speaker 2: there's I told my team too. I was like, it's
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Speaker 2: Yeah, And I hope that there is the set of spending.
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Speaker 4: More time to you Jenny too.
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Speaker 1: I would love that because, like I think, also, I
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Speaker 2: I guess. Well, I think I feel the same way
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Speaker 2: Absolutely, And that's how that's at least how I see it. Yeah,
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Speaker 2: And this is easily been the warmest introduction to a
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Speaker 2: So yeah, and this is this is a you know
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Speaker 1: So well I'm honored.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, So for me, it's definitely been that and to me,
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Speaker 2: The one and Only Kendall Jenna Kendell, thank you so
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Speaker 2: much for doing this.
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Speaker 1: For having me. That was a wonderful introduction.
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Speaker 2: Oh well, it's it's honestly, in such an honor getting
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Speaker 2: forward slash jay. What would you say? I was thinking
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Speaker 2: about this, and I've watched so many of you interviews
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Speaker 2: and read so much too, But what would you say
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Speaker 1: Like I said, I look back and the things that
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Speaker 1: And I went to my mom and I was like,
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Speaker 1: I was twenty four that I was like, Okay, I
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Speaker 1: we can also get into because that's a very kind
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Speaker 1: of dramatic story, but like I just knew, and I
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Speaker 1: that I've done within that process, because there was a
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Speaker 1: of it, that I was extremely overworked, not my happiest,
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Speaker 1: because I was overwhelmed and I felt like I was
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Speaker 1: saying yes to everything because I felt really, really grateful
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Speaker 1: I really set boundaries for myself, and I was like,
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Speaker 1: I want to continue to do this because this is
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Speaker 1: what I love, but I need to start saying no
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Speaker 1: when I can and prioritizing me and prioritizing, like, you know,
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Speaker 1: wonders for me, like I feel like I can show
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Speaker 1: me that day, and you know that I work with
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Speaker 1: on that day. So yeah, yeah, so that's what I'm
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Speaker 1: proud of you. That's amazing.
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Speaker 2: I was I won't say I was hoping for that,
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Speaker 2: because I'm always open to wherever anyone's life experience goes.
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Speaker 2: But there's a part of me that loves hearing that, Like,
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Speaker 2: I really appreciate hearing that, because when you've achieved so
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Speaker 2: many incredible things in your career, which you have to
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Speaker 2: then say, well, this is the part, like knowing how
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Speaker 2: right time.
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Speaker 1: Healthy balance, the healthy balance, it's so important. It's important
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Speaker 1: for all of us, like we have to this is
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Speaker 1: what we're prioritizing, you know.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, so how did you find the courage to do that?
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Speaker 2: The twenty three Marc as you're saying, you're in a
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Speaker 2: competitive industry. As you said, it was overworking, it's fast paced.
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Speaker 2: I'm guessing there's comparison in that industry. There's competition in
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Speaker 2: that industry. It's not an easy space to be. You're
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Speaker 2: you know, you're in the top zero point zero one
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Speaker 2: percent in your industry. So it's hard. And the reason
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Speaker 2: I asked this is because I work with so many
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Speaker 2: people in this space and to have the courage to
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Speaker 2: say no, I know that if I sought this out,
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Speaker 2: then all of this is going to be just fine.
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Speaker 2: That actually takes more courage than we recognize. We realize
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Speaker 2: that when you have nothing, then there's nothing to lose,
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Speaker 2: you can actually have a lot of courage, right, But
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Speaker 2: when you have everything and there's everything to lose, and
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Speaker 2: a lot of the time, at least what I've heard
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Speaker 2: in town is you know older managers and agents and
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Speaker 2: I'm not saying you have any of this, but people
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Speaker 2: that I know will be told, well, hey, if you
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Speaker 2: don't do this, like you'll be forgotten next year, or
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Speaker 2: you know your your career is only going to last
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Speaker 2: another six months. How did you have that courage to
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Speaker 2: say no, no, no, I need to do this, Like where
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Speaker 2: did that come from?
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Speaker 1: And I think that it's interesting, like I've never thought
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Speaker 1: I just knew that if I had gone any further,
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Speaker 1: that very I was on the teeter totter edge of
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Speaker 1: that point, where had I gone any further, I was
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Speaker 1: probably not going to be great. It was so important
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Speaker 1: to me to feel good that I just knew that
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Speaker 1: it was something that I had to do. And I
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Speaker 1: can't say, like, you're absolutely right, like there were so
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Speaker 1: many people around me that had told me not to
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Speaker 1: say no and or told me yeah, told me not
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Speaker 1: to say no, told me not to stop. I fought
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Speaker 1: my way out of it a little bit because there
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Speaker 1: were people that had worked for me that you know,
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Speaker 1: of course, but I got to that point and I
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Speaker 1: just knew I had to do it, and I just
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Speaker 1: I don't know, I don't know how to explain it.
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Speaker 1: I guess it was just such an unbelievable sensation that
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Speaker 1: I had where I knew that if I do this,
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Speaker 1: I'm going to be better for everyone, and I'm going
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Speaker 1: to be better for myself, which means I'm going to
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Speaker 1: be better for the people around me. And I have
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Speaker 1: to do this, and so it wasn't really I want
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Speaker 1: to be able to live with happiness, God forbid any
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Speaker 1: of this ever went away. And I think that that
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Speaker 1: was a big moment for me of being like, I'm
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Speaker 1: gonna be okay if I don't get this job tomorrow,
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Speaker 1: and I'm gonna be okay if I don't get that
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Speaker 1: job in a month, if I have to take this
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Speaker 1: time to do whatever things will come. Everything's going to
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Speaker 2: And I had to trust that well to me from
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Speaker 2: the outside, And it's beautiful that you didn't see it
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Speaker 2: in yourself. I al respects it even more wonderful. But
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Speaker 2: the idea that to me from the outside, that's a
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Speaker 2: lot of courage. Yeah. I think it takes a lot
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Speaker 2: of courage. It takes a lot of vulnerability and openness,
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Speaker 2: and it takes courage every level, whether someone's thinking about
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Speaker 2: or whether someone like you is feeling success but then
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Speaker 2: few years, we've seen athletes and musicians and actors and
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Speaker 2: I need to put me first. Yeah, And I think
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Speaker 2: that that's empowering because I think we hear about burnout
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Speaker 4: Culture and corporate pressure so often for sure.
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Speaker 2: So what was it that you started to do with
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Speaker 2: that newfound time at that time? Like, where was is that?
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Speaker 2: What the curious? Was? The curiosity always there and now
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Speaker 2: you could actually follow it?
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Speaker 1: It was it was, it was always there. And I
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Speaker 1: therapy and so many different things. And I was a
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Speaker 1: bit overwhelmed because I was like, oh my god, what
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Speaker 1: of this is going to suit me. I think it's
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Speaker 1: a very personal experience. I think everybody has a very
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Speaker 1: to go to my friend's birthday party, which I wouldn't
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Speaker 1: have been able to go before because I was working
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Speaker 1: a lot.
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Speaker 2: I love hearing that because I think it is those
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Speaker 2: simple things, like you know, giving yourself that space. Yeah,
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Speaker 2: whatever it is that you needed to do when you
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Speaker 2: needed it, And like you said, sometimes it's like that's
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Speaker 2: when all the subscribe buttons come up in front of you.
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Speaker 2: And it's like try this and try this, and it's like,
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Speaker 2: well no, no, no, let me just take my time.
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Speaker 1: It was also now that I think about it, Yeah,
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Speaker 1: twenty three, I'm twenty six. I've had my horse for
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Speaker 1: so around that time is when I bought the horse
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Speaker 1: that I have now, who is my Like I jump
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Speaker 1: her and I like, I have two other horses, but
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Speaker 1: they're like retired, so I don't really ride them the
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Speaker 1: same way I ride her. So yeah, I guess it
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Speaker 1: was around that time too that I was like, I'm
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Speaker 1: going to do this because I love this and like
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Speaker 1: I want to get back into it and this is
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Speaker 1: what I've loved my whole life. So so it was
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Speaker 1: around that time that I feel like all of that
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Speaker 1: started happening, and I bought my horse and I like
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Speaker 1: started taking more time for things that made me really happy.
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Speaker 2: Yeah. What I'm noticing in you and observing, or at
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Speaker 2: least from just the no in a good way way,
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Speaker 2: I was just saying, it's like it feels like, no
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Speaker 2: matter what's happening in your orbit, there's this pillar of
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Speaker 2: belief that it's important to be happy. Yeah, like you know,
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Speaker 2: that's like this core center belief in your life where
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Speaker 2: it's really important to be happy. It's important to be happy.
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Speaker 2: It's that has to be the goal for sure.
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Speaker 1: And you know it's not always easy. We live in
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Speaker 1: such an interesting industry and in such an interesting time
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Speaker 1: with social media, that it can be very hard. Sometimes
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Speaker 1: you can fall victim to so many things that don't
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Speaker 1: serve you and that don't make you happy. If your
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Speaker 1: happiness depends on the actions of others, you know, you're
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Speaker 1: at mercy of things that you can't control. And that's
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Speaker 1: never where I want to be. So I always want
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Speaker 1: to live in like me and my therapist talk about
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Speaker 1: like my higher goddess, my higher self, Like I always
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Speaker 1: want to live there knowing that you know when I'm there,
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Speaker 1: you can't take that away from me. That's mine And
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Speaker 1: no matter what you can disagree with me, you can
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Speaker 1: agree with me, that's not going. I'm not changing, I'm
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Speaker 1: not shifting. I'm here, I'm in my higher Goddess. So
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Speaker 1: I kind of I always live by like holding my
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Speaker 1: happiness and not letting anyone else affect it. And though
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Speaker 1: I fall victim to it at times well as we
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Speaker 1: all probably do, absolutely I strive every day to live
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Speaker 1: in that place, So.
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Speaker 2: What are some of the qualities of your higher goddess
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Speaker 2: so that that kind of she's awesome.
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Speaker 1: Like I said, I don't love a pity party. I also, like,
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Speaker 1: you know, sometimes it feels weird to like say good
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Speaker 1: things about yourself. But I've also learned a lot about
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00:31:47,640 --> 00:31:49,480
Speaker 1: talking to myself and a lot about looking in the
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Speaker 1: mirror and being like, you're great, you're gorgeous, you're amazing,
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Speaker 1: you're loyal, you're positive, you're so many like I love
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Speaker 1: words of affirmation. I love just sitting there and reassuring
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Speaker 1: myself of who I am, because that's another thing for me.
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Speaker 1: You know, there's so many false narratives about me, about
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Speaker 1: all of us, I'm sure, like so many people think
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00:32:13,040 --> 00:32:15,920
Speaker 1: they have you figured out when they don't even know
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Speaker 1: the half of it. So sitting there and being like,
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Speaker 1: you know, you get frustrated. Sometimes it could feel really unfair.
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Speaker 1: You could be reading something that someone is saying about you,
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Speaker 1: or hearing something that someone's saying about you and being like,
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Speaker 1: that is so unfair because that's not who I am,
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Speaker 1: And that really gets to me sometimes and that really sucks.
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Speaker 1: But then looking at myself in the mirror and being like,
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Speaker 1: but I know who I am and that's all. Why
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Speaker 1: does anything else matter? And my friends know who I am,
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Speaker 1: and my family knows who I am. My dog knows
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Speaker 1: who I am, my horse knows who I am, Like,
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Speaker 1: why does any of everything else is just noise?
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Speaker 2: I do this exercise. I don't think I've sh had
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Speaker 2: this before, but I do this exercise with some of
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Speaker 2: my clients where we'll go on a walk and we'll
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Speaker 2: be on a hike wherever we are, and I'll ask
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Speaker 2: them what they think a piece of you know, maybe
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Speaker 2: there's a little leaf, or maybe there's some flower or
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Speaker 2: something that looks a little unique on the path, and
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Speaker 2: I'll say, what do you think that feels like? And
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Speaker 2: what do you think it would feel like if you
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Speaker 2: picked it up in your hand. And they'll be like, Oh,
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Speaker 2: it looks really rough and like it might scratch me,
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Speaker 2: and like it looks like a bit, you know, like
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Speaker 2: uneven or whatever, and it looks kind of hard and strong.
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Speaker 2: And then I'll ask them to pick it up, and
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Speaker 2: nine times out of ten it's completely different. Like they'll
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Speaker 2: pick it up and it will just dissolve in their hands,
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Speaker 2: or they'll turn it over and the color is really
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Speaker 2: soft and sorry the shape. The shape's really soft, and
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Speaker 2: the color's totally different on the other side. And I
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Speaker 2: do that I exercise to help us realize just how
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Speaker 2: multifaceted humans are. Today, I've got to meet you, and
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Speaker 2: obviously we're spending a lot of deep, intimate, vulnerable time together,
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Speaker 2: so you learn faster about someone. But if someone only
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Speaker 2: follows someone on social media, or only sees someone at
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Speaker 2: an event, or only sees one interview, it's so easy
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Speaker 2: to create such a singular view of someone and I
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Speaker 2: and I want to say this because I really think
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Speaker 2: we all feel it. I don't think anyone wants to
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Speaker 2: be seen in a singular way. If you had to
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Speaker 2: choose one word that had to be you for the
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Speaker 2: rest of your life, I don't think anyone wants that.
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Speaker 2: I think we all know that we're messy and complex
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Speaker 2: and different, of course, but we like to put someone
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Speaker 2: else in a box, whoever that may be, because it's
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Speaker 2: easier than to live life and say, okay, well that's
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Speaker 2: person's a bright yeah.
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Speaker 5: No.
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Speaker 2: So there's this beautiful piece of wisdom that I always
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Speaker 2: share from Charles Horton Cooley, and he wrote this in
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Speaker 2: eighteen ninety I think it was, which just shows how
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Speaker 2: true this has been for such a long time and
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Speaker 2: obviously long before that as well. And he said, the
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Speaker 2: challenge today is I'm not what I think I am.
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Speaker 2: I'm not what you think I am. I am what
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Speaker 2: I think you think I am. And we'll let that
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Speaker 2: blow everyone's mind. Yeah, Charles Houghton coolly said, the challenge
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Speaker 2: today is I'm not what I think I am. I'm
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Speaker 2: not what you think I am. I am what I
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Speaker 2: think you think I am. And what he's trying to
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Speaker 2: say is that we live in a perception of a
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Speaker 2: perception of ourselves. So if I think you think I'm smart,
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Speaker 2: then I allow myself to feel smart.
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Speaker 1: Right, It's like we need that, family needs that validation.
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00:35:20,160 --> 00:35:23,960
Speaker 2: Or if I think you think I'm not smart, then
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Speaker 2: I feel hurt. And the challenges I don't know what
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Speaker 2: you're thinking at all, especially outside in the world, and
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Speaker 2: so I find out what you're saying around like, well
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Speaker 2: what do I think about myself? Like how do I
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Speaker 2: feel about myself? How do the people that actually know
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Speaker 2: me feel about me? I think that's really empowering. I
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Speaker 2: wanted to ask you because I feel like from what
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Speaker 2: I've seen and from what I've heard, you have great friendships.
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Speaker 2: You have a great question with your families. You said, like,
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Speaker 2: what do you think have been really great habits or
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Speaker 2: traits in relationships that have helped you build up good
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Speaker 2: friendships and family relationship Because I think for so many
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Speaker 2: people sometimes their friendships and their family can often be
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Speaker 2: the most difficult part. But I feel like the way
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Speaker 2: you communicate, the way you're talking about it, I'm like, Okay,
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Speaker 2: there's some really good habits in place. Yeah. Yeah. Have
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Speaker 2: there been any principles or rules that you've learned along
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Speaker 2: the way that have been helpful?
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Speaker 1: I mean, of course honesty. I'm a big person on
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Speaker 1: like keeping a really honest, healthy, communicative relationship. But I
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Speaker 1: also think, like I find it really important to have
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Speaker 1: not feel like you're on top of each other when
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Speaker 1: you have your family around or your friends around. It's
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Speaker 1: okay to like sometimes even if you're at like a
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Speaker 1: family dinner, running to the bathroom and just being like,
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Speaker 1: let me just take a couple of breaths because this
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00:36:35,880 --> 00:36:38,279
Speaker 1: is getting overwhelming, you know what I mean. So I
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Speaker 1: just love to like take a second. My feelings are valid,
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Speaker 1: Like sometimes my family's a lot, which I bet everyone
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Speaker 1: all already knows family have a sense of crazy to them.
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Speaker 1: But I think that I can get really overwhelmed really easily.
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Speaker 1: I am prone to just you know, a good amount
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Speaker 1: of anxiety and just being extremely overwhelmed and kind of
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00:37:00,640 --> 00:37:03,200
Speaker 1: taking everything too seriously sometimes. So I like to just
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Speaker 1: step away sometimes and just be like, this is okay.
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Speaker 1: I'm allowed to feel this way. It's valid. I'm just
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Speaker 1: gonna take a deep breath and I'm not going to react,
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Speaker 1: and then I'm gonna go back out there and I'm
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Speaker 1: gonna be fine. That's a great times I do that.
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Speaker 2: I love that. I love how easy it is. No
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Speaker 2: one needs to learn a new meditation. So sometimes that's
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Speaker 2: so yeah, it's as simple as that. I love that.
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Speaker 2: I you know, one of the things that you know
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Speaker 2: when which which really touched my heart when I saw this,
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00:37:27,800 --> 00:37:31,280
Speaker 2: because I think when things happen in culture and everyone
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00:37:31,280 --> 00:37:33,360
Speaker 2: talks about it, but sometimes you're like, okay, well I
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Speaker 2: can tell that there's a real connection here, like when
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Speaker 2: when you lost Virgil, Right like that, when I when
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Speaker 2: I saw your message and what you spoke about it,
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Speaker 2: I was like, wow, this is this is someone who
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Speaker 2: had a really deep connection with this individual, and going
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Speaker 2: through grief is really really tough, Like you know, people
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Speaker 2: who lose and I lost two really close people to
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Speaker 2: me during the pandemic. One was thank you. One was
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Speaker 2: one was my spiritual teacher since I was twelve years old,
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Speaker 2: and he died of stage four brain cancer and I
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Speaker 2: hadn't seen him during the pandemic. I can go back
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Speaker 2: for his because that was still when it was like yeahwn,
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Speaker 2: so he couldn't go back for his funeral, and you know,
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Speaker 2: he'd been the person who'd been such a key piece
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Speaker 2: of my world. And then the other person, pretty much
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Speaker 2: in the same year was my best friend as a monk,
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Speaker 2: so he was still a monk, wow, and he having
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Speaker 2: to get cancer and he passed to it during the pandemic.
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Speaker 2: I can see him either, and he was my age
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Speaker 2: and so to lose someone that was you know and
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Speaker 2: he was still there and so yeah and so and
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Speaker 2: so when I saw your you know, your wonderful tribute
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Speaker 2: to Virgil as well, I was like, you know, how
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Speaker 2: how do you process something like that when you know
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Speaker 2: it's not only industry friends but genuine friendship beyond that,
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Speaker 2: and just how yeah.
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Speaker 1: Well, my first thought here is why is it always
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Speaker 1: the best people? Like, why is it always these people
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Speaker 1: that are just such balls of light in everyone's life?
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Speaker 1: It's like, so you just think about it and you're like,
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Speaker 1: this is so unfair, and you're going through every emotion,
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Speaker 1: and to be honest, it was really shocking because not
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Speaker 1: everyone knew what he was going through and suffering from,
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00:39:06,200 --> 00:39:10,279
Speaker 1: so it was really shocking. I'll never forget the day
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Speaker 1: I found out, and it just absolutely obviously breaks your
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Speaker 1: heart and you can't help but be like, oh my god,
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Speaker 1: did I ever say enough? Did I ever tell him enough?
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Speaker 1: It's really interesting to share that feeling with so many people.
848
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Speaker 1: It feels good in a way, and you're just like
849
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Speaker 1: everyone makes you feel so human, and you're sharing this
850
00:39:35,760 --> 00:39:38,879
Speaker 1: emotion with people that knew him, people that didn't know him,
851
00:39:39,160 --> 00:39:42,239
Speaker 1: people that just loved him from Afar, and it's just
852
00:39:42,880 --> 00:39:47,320
Speaker 1: a really beautiful and incredible thing to a certain degree,
853
00:39:47,360 --> 00:39:51,440
Speaker 1: but then also just obviously the most devastating thing. It
854
00:39:51,520 --> 00:39:55,160
Speaker 1: hits so hard when so many people are talking about
855
00:39:55,200 --> 00:39:57,279
Speaker 1: it and so many people are affected by it. So
856
00:39:58,000 --> 00:40:03,400
Speaker 1: it was definitely really shocking, really sad time.
857
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Speaker 2: Yeah, it was, yeah, yeah, and those and it's really
858
00:40:06,520 --> 00:40:08,440
Speaker 2: interesting where you said there is like why And I
859
00:40:08,480 --> 00:40:10,320
Speaker 2: had that with my spiritual teacher for sure. I was
860
00:40:10,400 --> 00:40:14,839
Speaker 2: just like like he was, you know. And and what's
861
00:40:14,880 --> 00:40:18,239
Speaker 2: really powerful about what I could at least remember from
862
00:40:18,320 --> 00:40:20,480
Speaker 2: him at that time was that even though he had
863
00:40:20,520 --> 00:40:23,239
Speaker 2: staged four brain cancer, which means he'd lost his short
864
00:40:23,320 --> 00:40:26,240
Speaker 2: term memory and a lot of his long term memories impaired,
865
00:40:26,520 --> 00:40:29,279
Speaker 2: if you ever met him, he would just thank you
866
00:40:29,360 --> 00:40:31,359
Speaker 2: for your service to God. Like he would just say
867
00:40:31,400 --> 00:40:33,600
Speaker 2: thank you for everything you're doing for other people, and
868
00:40:33,640 --> 00:40:34,760
Speaker 2: he would just be grateful.
869
00:40:35,400 --> 00:40:38,080
Speaker 4: And I was just like, that's exactly how v was too.
870
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Speaker 1: He was the most positive lived life, like appreciative, wanted
871
00:40:45,960 --> 00:40:49,120
Speaker 1: to say yes to everything, wanted to just be there
872
00:40:49,160 --> 00:40:52,799
Speaker 1: for everyone. You could literally ask him to design a
873
00:40:52,800 --> 00:40:55,000
Speaker 1: pencil for you and he would be like, it'll be
874
00:40:55,040 --> 00:40:57,799
Speaker 1: done tomorrow. What else do you need? Like he just
875
00:40:58,040 --> 00:41:02,200
Speaker 1: had so much to give and he gave it. And
876
00:41:02,520 --> 00:41:06,160
Speaker 1: that wasn't that was pre his diagnosis. That was like,
877
00:41:06,480 --> 00:41:09,879
Speaker 1: that was just who Virgil was. And so to then
878
00:41:10,000 --> 00:41:12,319
Speaker 1: find out what he found out at a certain point
879
00:41:12,360 --> 00:41:14,399
Speaker 1: in his life and still be that person and still
880
00:41:14,440 --> 00:41:16,600
Speaker 1: like I'm going to show up for everyone, and like,
881
00:41:17,480 --> 00:41:20,160
Speaker 1: my time here is so special to all these other
882
00:41:20,200 --> 00:41:23,279
Speaker 1: people and I'm going to like be here to make
883
00:41:23,320 --> 00:41:27,080
Speaker 1: them feel amazing. It's just like unreal, Like it makes
884
00:41:27,080 --> 00:41:31,360
Speaker 1: you just be like what, Like how how could you
885
00:41:31,440 --> 00:41:34,520
Speaker 1: be that incredible and giving? Like that is so crazy?
886
00:41:34,680 --> 00:41:37,000
Speaker 1: There wasn't a selfish bone in that man's body, like
887
00:41:37,080 --> 00:41:39,640
Speaker 1: he was just the best. Yeah, but I'm sorry to
888
00:41:39,640 --> 00:41:40,920
Speaker 1: hear about your Oh.
889
00:41:40,800 --> 00:41:44,080
Speaker 2: No, No, I think it's actually nice speaking about people
890
00:41:44,120 --> 00:41:47,160
Speaker 2: that we both love in a similar way, even though
891
00:41:47,160 --> 00:41:50,280
Speaker 2: they're in such different places in life doing very different things.
892
00:41:50,719 --> 00:41:52,920
Speaker 2: But to talk about someone's and I think that's a
893
00:41:52,920 --> 00:41:54,760
Speaker 2: big part of it for me, at least with grief,
894
00:41:54,800 --> 00:41:57,120
Speaker 2: that I feel like when I talk about the beautiful
895
00:41:57,200 --> 00:42:00,640
Speaker 2: qualities of the people that I lost, it gives me
896
00:42:00,719 --> 00:42:05,239
Speaker 2: so much confidence that they want me to live it
897
00:42:05,600 --> 00:42:07,640
Speaker 2: and they want me to try and embody it, and
898
00:42:07,680 --> 00:42:10,640
Speaker 2: that how fortunate we are to have experienced that type
899
00:42:10,640 --> 00:42:11,280
Speaker 2: of humanity.
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00:42:11,480 --> 00:42:14,880
Speaker 1: Yeah, And those are my thoughts of him. Like, I
901
00:42:14,920 --> 00:42:17,080
Speaker 1: think all we ever really want is human beings, is
902
00:42:17,120 --> 00:42:19,440
Speaker 1: to be you know, when we do leave this earth,
903
00:42:19,480 --> 00:42:23,359
Speaker 1: we want to be remembered so beautifully and positively positively. Ali,
904
00:42:23,440 --> 00:42:25,600
Speaker 1: I know at least I do, of course, but like
905
00:42:26,000 --> 00:42:28,720
Speaker 1: you just want, you of course want to make people
906
00:42:28,760 --> 00:42:32,160
Speaker 1: feel something, and he made so many people feel something,
907
00:42:32,160 --> 00:42:35,080
Speaker 1: and for that it is so special, like what they
908
00:42:35,120 --> 00:42:37,200
Speaker 1: say that we, you know, we have our purpose here,
909
00:42:37,239 --> 00:42:40,200
Speaker 1: and I know that he fulfilled a purpose here that
910
00:42:40,239 --> 00:42:43,280
Speaker 1: he was supposed to fulfill, and I think that that's
911
00:42:43,480 --> 00:42:46,319
Speaker 1: I think about it beautifully, Like I obviously it's a
912
00:42:46,440 --> 00:42:51,239
Speaker 1: very very sad situation and it breaks my heart, but
913
00:42:52,000 --> 00:42:54,440
Speaker 1: I have nothing but beautiful thoughts of him, and I
914
00:42:54,480 --> 00:42:56,400
Speaker 1: think that's really cool and really special.
915
00:42:56,480 --> 00:42:58,640
Speaker 2: So yeah, thank you for sharing that too. And I
916
00:42:59,120 --> 00:43:02,080
Speaker 2: had to ask you because yeah, I just I feel
917
00:43:02,280 --> 00:43:05,120
Speaker 2: I love hearing amazing things about amazing people that you know,
918
00:43:05,160 --> 00:43:07,279
Speaker 2: because I think so many of the most incredible people
919
00:43:07,320 --> 00:43:09,839
Speaker 2: I grew up reading about people that I never met,
920
00:43:10,160 --> 00:43:12,520
Speaker 2: and I spent a lot of my life studying books
921
00:43:12,520 --> 00:43:14,840
Speaker 2: about people that I never met, some Malcolm X and
922
00:43:14,880 --> 00:43:17,720
Speaker 2: Martin Luther King and Einstein and people that I really
923
00:43:17,719 --> 00:43:20,200
Speaker 2: see as people that have directed so much of my
924
00:43:20,320 --> 00:43:24,520
Speaker 2: life from how they lived. And I feel like he
925
00:43:24,640 --> 00:43:26,839
Speaker 2: was potentially one of those people that I never met him,
926
00:43:26,840 --> 00:43:28,919
Speaker 2: but whenever I hear about him, I'm just like sure,
927
00:43:28,960 --> 00:43:30,800
Speaker 2: Oh this is someone that we could learn from. You
928
00:43:31,560 --> 00:43:34,279
Speaker 2: spoke about purpose there. I was wondering, how is your
929
00:43:34,320 --> 00:43:37,840
Speaker 2: purpose changed? You had this very confident view of I
930
00:43:37,880 --> 00:43:41,000
Speaker 2: want to be a mono. You know you've superseded, exceeded,
931
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Speaker 2: and continue to flourish in that world, and I always
932
00:43:44,239 --> 00:43:47,399
Speaker 2: wish that you do. How has your purpose evolved as
933
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Speaker 2: that time's gone on.
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Speaker 1: I think I've learned a lot. I've learned a lot
935
00:43:50,920 --> 00:43:54,359
Speaker 1: about myself about what I want from my life, and
936
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Speaker 1: which is kind of what we've been talking about. But
937
00:43:57,480 --> 00:44:01,520
Speaker 1: I'm actually really excited to get older and to learn
938
00:44:01,680 --> 00:44:05,560
Speaker 1: so much more about not only myself, but like the
939
00:44:05,680 --> 00:44:08,560
Speaker 1: journey and the path that I guess want to take
940
00:44:08,640 --> 00:44:12,200
Speaker 1: and want to be on. So I'd say, you know,
941
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Speaker 1: my purpose has evolved from obviously within business, doing what
942
00:44:17,280 --> 00:44:20,200
Speaker 1: I want to do and making sure I'm happy and
943
00:44:20,320 --> 00:44:22,520
Speaker 1: finding the thing that I love and all those things.
944
00:44:23,040 --> 00:44:26,120
Speaker 1: But I've kind of, like I said, really tuned into
945
00:44:26,200 --> 00:44:28,600
Speaker 1: me and I think my purpose at least at this
946
00:44:28,719 --> 00:44:32,279
Speaker 1: very moment, and what I've kind of evolved into is
947
00:44:32,440 --> 00:44:35,239
Speaker 1: my higher Goddess, like I am determined to tune into
948
00:44:35,280 --> 00:44:39,520
Speaker 1: her at all times. But also as I get older,
949
00:44:39,840 --> 00:44:44,640
Speaker 1: I have so much that I want to connect with
950
00:44:44,760 --> 00:44:48,799
Speaker 1: other people and with you know, aka social media and
951
00:44:48,880 --> 00:44:52,160
Speaker 1: people that may not know me personally, and just you
952
00:44:52,200 --> 00:44:55,000
Speaker 1: know the following. Like I said, I was given this
953
00:44:55,200 --> 00:44:58,160
Speaker 1: life for some reason, for whatever reason, I was placed here,
954
00:44:58,560 --> 00:45:03,120
Speaker 1: and I do feel a per to share and connect
955
00:45:03,400 --> 00:45:06,680
Speaker 1: and put a smile on people's faces or make someone
956
00:45:06,680 --> 00:45:09,920
Speaker 1: feel a positive feeling. And so I think that within
957
00:45:10,040 --> 00:45:13,320
Speaker 1: me wanting to achieve me tuning into my higher goddess,
958
00:45:13,360 --> 00:45:17,360
Speaker 1: I think that also entails me being a great version
959
00:45:17,400 --> 00:45:22,040
Speaker 1: of myself for other people to then experience, and my
960
00:45:22,200 --> 00:45:25,279
Speaker 1: tips and my tools, whatever I can share, whatever help
961
00:45:25,320 --> 00:45:29,040
Speaker 1: I can give. I I really, you know, as corny
962
00:45:29,080 --> 00:45:31,359
Speaker 1: as it sounds, I want to spread like I want
963
00:45:31,400 --> 00:45:35,160
Speaker 1: people to feel love. That's really I guess the purpose.
964
00:45:35,440 --> 00:45:36,920
Speaker 2: Yeah that's beautiful.
965
00:45:36,960 --> 00:45:39,239
Speaker 4: I mean we'll thank you, right, yeah.
966
00:45:39,280 --> 00:45:41,440
Speaker 2: And it is funny that so much of the stuff
967
00:45:41,440 --> 00:45:43,760
Speaker 2: that is corny or you know whatever, that's the stuff
968
00:45:43,800 --> 00:45:46,480
Speaker 2: that's true, right, That's the stuff it is.
969
00:45:46,680 --> 00:45:49,480
Speaker 1: Like, there's also just we all just like live in
970
00:45:49,560 --> 00:45:52,600
Speaker 1: such a it's an interesting time obviously, and it can
971
00:45:52,640 --> 00:45:57,120
Speaker 1: feel really negative. And I tend to stay off of
972
00:45:57,680 --> 00:46:01,080
Speaker 1: platforms like social media platforms because it's hard to look
973
00:46:01,120 --> 00:46:03,160
Speaker 1: at it sometimes and it feels really negative. So I
974
00:46:03,160 --> 00:46:04,680
Speaker 1: feel like we all just need a little bit of
975
00:46:04,880 --> 00:46:06,120
Speaker 1: a smile sometimes.
976
00:46:06,200 --> 00:46:10,359
Speaker 2: I agree. I agree. I post these videos every day
977
00:46:10,400 --> 00:46:13,799
Speaker 2: which are just these fun, silly things that happen yeah
978
00:46:13,800 --> 00:46:16,279
Speaker 2: old that my team will find, I'll find, and I
979
00:46:16,320 --> 00:46:18,319
Speaker 2: post them every day literally for that reason, and that
980
00:46:18,400 --> 00:46:20,839
Speaker 2: reason only because I'm like, I may or may say,
981
00:46:21,040 --> 00:46:23,320
Speaker 2: may or may not say something that makes someone smile,
982
00:46:23,760 --> 00:46:27,839
Speaker 2: but this definitely, like this without will bring some joy.
983
00:46:28,880 --> 00:46:31,000
Speaker 2: And if this is the only joy that someone experienced,
984
00:46:31,040 --> 00:46:32,640
Speaker 2: I want them to see good in the world and
985
00:46:32,719 --> 00:46:33,719
Speaker 2: believe that there's good in the wa.
986
00:46:33,800 --> 00:46:36,680
Speaker 1: That's one of my favorite things to see on TikTok.
987
00:46:36,719 --> 00:46:38,040
Speaker 1: When I sit in my bed at night and fall
988
00:46:38,120 --> 00:46:41,360
Speaker 1: victim to TikTok, I love to see there's people that
989
00:46:41,400 --> 00:46:45,400
Speaker 1: I'll post, like here's like five amazing facts that have
990
00:46:45,440 --> 00:46:47,200
Speaker 1: happened in the world in the last couple of weeks
991
00:46:47,320 --> 00:46:50,400
Speaker 1: or whatever, and it'll be like the you know, pandas
992
00:46:50,400 --> 00:46:53,320
Speaker 1: are not extinct anymore, and like the very great barrier
993
00:46:53,320 --> 00:46:55,160
Speaker 1: reef is coming back and stuff like that, and so
994
00:46:55,200 --> 00:46:56,240
Speaker 1: I'm like, that's so cool.
995
00:46:56,560 --> 00:46:59,239
Speaker 2: That's what I want to hear exactly. And you know,
996
00:46:59,320 --> 00:47:01,319
Speaker 2: if it was like it's going down, it's like it's
997
00:47:01,320 --> 00:47:02,799
Speaker 2: going to get a lot of likes and hits, but
998
00:47:03,280 --> 00:47:03,960
Speaker 2: it's going up.
999
00:47:05,920 --> 00:47:08,680
Speaker 1: Why do we like gravitate towards the negative so much?
1000
00:47:08,920 --> 00:47:10,240
Speaker 1: Like very interesting?
1001
00:47:10,239 --> 00:47:13,800
Speaker 2: We have to retrain I genuinely believe it's just a pattern.
1002
00:47:14,200 --> 00:47:17,960
Speaker 2: It's a pattern and a habit that's been so long, absolutely,
1003
00:47:18,000 --> 00:47:20,760
Speaker 2: and we have to retrain ourselves clickbait.
1004
00:47:20,360 --> 00:47:22,840
Speaker 1: Of it all and the whole thing. And we're like,
1005
00:47:23,560 --> 00:47:26,239
Speaker 1: that's going downhill. I need to see what's happening, and
1006
00:47:26,280 --> 00:47:29,200
Speaker 1: we're just like, we do need to retrain our brains.
1007
00:47:29,200 --> 00:47:30,279
Speaker 1: It's exactly what it is.
1008
00:47:30,520 --> 00:47:32,279
Speaker 2: Yeah, And it starts with what you said earlier. It
1009
00:47:32,320 --> 00:47:35,200
Speaker 2: starts with how we see ourselves. It is all from that.
1010
00:47:35,280 --> 00:47:38,000
Speaker 2: If someone looks in the mirror as you were saying earlier,
1011
00:47:38,160 --> 00:47:40,640
Speaker 2: or if someone just reflects on themselves, not in the
1012
00:47:41,080 --> 00:47:45,720
Speaker 2: physically but just internally. Yeah, most of us will spot
1013
00:47:45,800 --> 00:47:48,319
Speaker 2: all the negative things about ourselves and then we take
1014
00:47:48,360 --> 00:47:50,120
Speaker 2: that out into the world and spot all the negative
1015
00:47:50,160 --> 00:47:52,480
Speaker 2: things about everyone else, and then we take that out
1016
00:47:52,480 --> 00:47:53,920
Speaker 2: into social media.
1017
00:47:54,440 --> 00:47:57,960
Speaker 4: So that just propels from all.
1018
00:47:58,040 --> 00:48:00,439
Speaker 2: Yeah, if we ask someone to sit down and write down.
1019
00:48:00,640 --> 00:48:03,239
Speaker 2: As you said, we feel uncomfortable taking a compliment, or
1020
00:48:03,400 --> 00:48:04,800
Speaker 2: we feel uncomfortable.
1021
00:48:04,320 --> 00:48:06,960
Speaker 1: Saying saying nice about herself, so exactly.
1022
00:48:06,520 --> 00:48:09,240
Speaker 2: And so it all starts with our relationship with ourselves.
1023
00:48:09,239 --> 00:48:12,040
Speaker 2: If we were able to find three good things about
1024
00:48:12,040 --> 00:48:14,799
Speaker 2: ourselves today, I promise you're going to find three good
1025
00:48:14,800 --> 00:48:16,600
Speaker 2: things about the person sitting in front of you, and
1026
00:48:16,920 --> 00:48:18,400
Speaker 2: that will right exactly.
1027
00:48:19,080 --> 00:48:22,680
Speaker 1: I do a lot of like inner child work with
1028
00:48:22,719 --> 00:48:26,360
Speaker 1: my therapist, and there's actually a trend on TikTok that
1029
00:48:26,440 --> 00:48:29,600
Speaker 1: was going around, but coincidentally enough, we ended up naturally
1030
00:48:29,600 --> 00:48:32,160
Speaker 1: speaking about it in my session and it was like
1031
00:48:32,200 --> 00:48:35,560
Speaker 1: this trend on TikTok. I guess that was like a
1032
00:48:35,640 --> 00:48:39,600
Speaker 1: girl being like, anytime you're being mean to yourself, just
1033
00:48:39,640 --> 00:48:41,400
Speaker 1: think this is who you're talking about. And then it
1034
00:48:41,440 --> 00:48:43,160
Speaker 1: flashes to like a photo of her as a kid,
1035
00:48:43,719 --> 00:48:46,520
Speaker 1: and so I me and my therapist were talking about
1036
00:48:46,520 --> 00:48:49,000
Speaker 1: something similar and she was like, why don't you find
1037
00:48:49,000 --> 00:48:50,680
Speaker 1: like a photo of yourself and put it on your
1038
00:48:50,719 --> 00:48:54,640
Speaker 1: bathroom mirror so that every morning, every night, every day,
1039
00:48:54,680 --> 00:48:56,680
Speaker 1: when you walk into your bathroom mirror, you're looking at
1040
00:48:56,719 --> 00:48:59,120
Speaker 1: her and you're remembering that. If there's anything negative that
1041
00:48:59,120 --> 00:49:00,880
Speaker 1: you're ever saying about your if you're ever being mean
1042
00:49:00,920 --> 00:49:04,359
Speaker 1: to yourself, you're talking about her. And so I did that,
1043
00:49:04,480 --> 00:49:06,840
Speaker 1: and I went into my I went into like my
1044
00:49:06,920 --> 00:49:09,640
Speaker 1: memorabilia closet in my house, and I was looking through
1045
00:49:09,680 --> 00:49:11,800
Speaker 1: old like photo books. And I've seen these photo books
1046
00:49:11,840 --> 00:49:14,000
Speaker 1: my whole life. I've literally seen every photo that's been
1047
00:49:14,040 --> 00:49:16,840
Speaker 1: in here. And I like flipped to a page and
1048
00:49:16,840 --> 00:49:19,000
Speaker 1: there was a photo I'd never seen of myself ever.
1049
00:49:19,280 --> 00:49:21,480
Speaker 1: It was a polaroid, so it was the original photo
1050
00:49:22,280 --> 00:49:24,520
Speaker 1: and it was just me as a little girl with
1051
00:49:24,520 --> 00:49:25,960
Speaker 1: a bow in my hair out and a dress on,
1052
00:49:26,040 --> 00:49:28,040
Speaker 1: and I have like a little alien tattoo or something
1053
00:49:28,120 --> 00:49:31,000
Speaker 1: right here, and I'm like, have this big cheesy smile
1054
00:49:31,080 --> 00:49:32,760
Speaker 1: on my face. And I was like, that's the photo
1055
00:49:32,800 --> 00:49:34,239
Speaker 1: I'm putting on my thing. I can show you the
1056
00:49:34,280 --> 00:49:36,240
Speaker 1: photo later. I have a picture of it on my phone.
1057
00:49:36,280 --> 00:49:40,120
Speaker 1: But so I pasted it on my bathroom mirror, and
1058
00:49:40,160 --> 00:49:42,399
Speaker 1: I talked to her. And I'm always like, if I'm
1059
00:49:42,440 --> 00:49:44,880
Speaker 1: ever looking in the mirror and being negative towards myself
1060
00:49:44,960 --> 00:49:46,920
Speaker 1: or anything, I always look right over to her and
1061
00:49:46,960 --> 00:49:49,719
Speaker 1: I'm like, she's dope, and I love her. And so
1062
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Speaker 1: It's just another way of just self life.
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Speaker 2: I love that. That's such a great tool. That's such
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Speaker 2: a great too. My team found a kid picture of
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Speaker 2: me and made an embarrassing of that trend.
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Speaker 1: So I'll show you that too, Okay, so you know it.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly exactly as well, Keto. You were saying earlier
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Speaker 2: that you know you you wanted to come here, and
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Speaker 2: you you wanted to share and manifested, and there were
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Speaker 2: things you wanted to share. What is it that's on
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Speaker 2: your heart that you've wanted to share that Maybe we
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Speaker 2: didn't go there today already, or is there something on
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Speaker 2: your mind and heart, is an experience or any anything
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Speaker 2: that really drew you here and made this happen, right, Like,
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Speaker 2: I want to honor that.
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Speaker 1: I think we've obviously we've honestly touched a lot of
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Speaker 1: what I felt like I would have loved to get
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Speaker 1: off my heart. I don't know. I was really excited,
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Speaker 1: honestly to come here and share a little bit of
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Speaker 1: me that I feel is very sometimes scary for me
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Speaker 1: to share. And like I said, I came in here
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Speaker 1: and I was a little nervous because this is important
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Speaker 1: to me, and like this part of you know everyone's
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Speaker 1: journey and what we're talking about today is it's so important.
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Speaker 1: I really that was I guess my intention here today
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Speaker 1: was to come in and share a little bit of
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Speaker 1: me and maybe for whoever's watching, they find some comfort
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Speaker 1: in this, or some joy from this, or they understand
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Speaker 1: me a little bit more, you know what I mean. So,
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Speaker 1: I think that we've hit a lot of really cool
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Speaker 1: points and yeah, I mean I feel I feel really
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Speaker 1: good good.
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Speaker 2: I wanted to honor that. I asked that because you know,
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Speaker 2: I think I think when when you feel you're in
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Speaker 2: that flow with someone and yeah, I feel like, you know,
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Speaker 2: we've learned so many new things about you today, and
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Speaker 2: there's so many moments where I'm like, I just feel
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Speaker 2: like you're so comfortable and you've been so open with us.
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Speaker 2: But I just wanted to honor that thank you, to
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Speaker 2: make sure that you feel that you've really felt heard
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Speaker 2: and seeing it.
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Speaker 4: I appreciate that thank you so.
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Speaker 1: So we all want to just be understood at the
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Speaker 1: end of the day.
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Speaker 2: I think the closer you get to people humans, the
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Speaker 2: closer you get to people of different backgrounds and different
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Speaker 2: walks of life, the more you start to recognize how similar.
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Speaker 4: We all are, yeah, exactly, and how many.
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Speaker 2: Challenges we all share, despite how much money someone has
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Speaker 2: in the bank, despite how much fame someone has, despite
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Speaker 2: how much follows someone as And what we find is
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Speaker 2: that everyone feels their own guilt for where they are,
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Speaker 2: and everyone feels their own pressure for where they are,
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Speaker 2: and everyone feels their own challenge for where they and
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Speaker 2: you just start to realize that we all have the
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Speaker 2: same emotions in different mixes.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, we're all just having a human experience exactly. We're
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Speaker 1: all just going day by day. I think we all
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Speaker 1: need to be a little bit kinder to each other
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Speaker 1: and just take it easy on some people because we are.
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Speaker 1: We're all we all have our own struggles. And I
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Speaker 1: don't know, I'm an EmPATH, so I like feel for
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Speaker 1: things and I feel for people and yeah.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, and it starts with you the person.
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Speaker 3: Yeah, it's exactly. Tell yourself with yourself.
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Speaker 2: If you can be kinder to yourself, chances are you're
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Speaker 2: going to be I found that the days I stop
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Speaker 2: judging myself of judging others, because it changed how I
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Speaker 2: saw humanities. Yeah, Ken do we end every on Purpose
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Speaker 2: episode with a final five, which is a fast five round.
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Speaker 2: I ask you a question and you answer it with
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Speaker 2: a one word or one sentence maximum, so it's super
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Speaker 2: quick and share. Okay, okay, and we have to whisk
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00:53:18,040 --> 00:53:19,480
Speaker 2: you away because you need to you need to go
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Speaker 2: to your next appointment. But okay, So the first question
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Speaker 2: is what's something you're curious about right now?
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Speaker 1: Ooh, I am super curious about I was saying how
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Speaker 1: I love Michael Singer, and I think what I really love.
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Speaker 1: I'm reading The Surrender Experiment right now, and I'm only
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Speaker 1: in the first couple chapters, so he's basically this is
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Speaker 1: not a quick answer. He's basically the first part of
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Speaker 1: the book where he's talking about how he was curious
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Speaker 1: about meditation and how he got into meditation and how
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00:53:51,760 --> 00:53:53,400
Speaker 1: he really just was like on a trip with his
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Speaker 1: friends and his girlfriend in the woods and like sat
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Speaker 1: in a corner or sat at a tree and was like,
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Speaker 1: I'm going to just really dive into this and see
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Speaker 1: what happens. That's what I'm curious about right now is
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Speaker 1: just actually, like I meditate, I do a lot of
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Speaker 1: breathing work, breathing exercises, and I just really want to
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Speaker 1: tap in. Yeah, like Michael Singer did I love that.
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Speaker 2: That's a great answer. That's a great answer. Circond question,
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Speaker 2: if there's anything that you're working on personally right now?
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Speaker 2: What are you working on on yourself?
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Speaker 1: Is there any Yes, I'm working on I'm working on boundaries,
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Speaker 1: and I'm working on not a stressor like I can
1157
00:54:27,520 --> 00:54:31,400
Speaker 1: stress about things in my mind and I overthink and
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00:54:31,440 --> 00:54:34,720
Speaker 1: I just so I'm really working on like calming down
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Speaker 1: and just letting things flow better and not being so
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Speaker 1: controlling over things, especially that I can't control.
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Speaker 2: Love it. Question number three, what's your favorite thing about founding?
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Speaker 2: Eight one eight ooh, being an entrepreneur, being a founder?
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Speaker 1: Probably that Like I, I, you know, was a model
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00:54:54,360 --> 00:54:57,000
Speaker 1: and I worked for people a lot. I kind of
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Speaker 1: love being my own boss and really being able to
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Speaker 1: have my own creative a place where I can be
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Speaker 1: creative and just really express my creativity and have so
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Speaker 1: much fun doing all of that creative stuff. And I've
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Speaker 1: learned so much and learning about the culture and learning
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Speaker 1: about the tequila and everything. Like I've just had the
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Speaker 1: best time.
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Speaker 2: So I love that question Before what's something you used
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Speaker 2: to value but you don't value anymore?
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00:55:23,120 --> 00:55:30,400
Speaker 1: Validation? I don't care anymore, at least I'm telling myself that, yeah,
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Speaker 1: we have to first right, No, but it's true, Like
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Speaker 1: I used to care so much more about validation, I
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Speaker 1: really don't care anymore at least, thank you.
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Speaker 2: Fifth and final question. If you could create one law
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Speaker 2: that everyone in the world had to follow, what would
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Speaker 2: it be.
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Speaker 1: Oh, I would do like on like a Sunday, you
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00:55:51,239 --> 00:55:53,279
Speaker 1: have to take half the day and like not look
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00:55:53,320 --> 00:55:54,359
Speaker 1: at your phone or something.
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00:55:54,840 --> 00:55:58,080
Speaker 2: I love that's leg That's great, right, yeah.
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00:55:58,040 --> 00:56:01,279
Speaker 1: Kind of nice. Or the full day really crazy? I
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00:56:01,440 --> 00:56:02,120
Speaker 1: love that idea.
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Speaker 2: I love that. Kendel Jenner. Everyone, this was amazing, Kendal,
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00:56:05,960 --> 00:56:10,279
Speaker 2: this honestly, and I'm excited to catch up afterwards too.
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Speaker 2: But there was just so much flow and synergy in
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Speaker 2: this whole thing happening, and I couldn't thank you more
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00:56:15,239 --> 00:56:18,920
Speaker 2: for doing this with me here on on purpose. And
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Speaker 2: I hope that this is the first and many times
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Speaker 2: that will do this, but I hope it's the beginning
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Speaker 2: of a beautiful friendship and relationship. And I want to
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Speaker 2: everyone who's been listening or watching back at home, please
1196
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Speaker 2: let me and Kendle know, tag us, letting us know
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Speaker 2: what resonated with you, what connected with you, like, what
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Speaker 2: was it that you've got curious about, or what was
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Speaker 2: something she said that just shifted your perspective or where
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00:56:40,080 --> 00:56:42,000
Speaker 2: you learned something new. I'd love to hear it. I
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Speaker 2: know there are tons of moments for me where I
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00:56:44,719 --> 00:56:47,520
Speaker 2: was listening going this is amazing, this is incredible, This
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Speaker 2: is awesome. So any wisdom nuggets that stuck out to you,
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Speaker 2: please let us know because I love seeing what made
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Speaker 2: a difference in your life as well. And a big
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Speaker 2: thank you to Kendall for opening our heart and opening.
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Speaker 4: Up our mind.
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Speaker 1: Thank you too, honored, Thank you so much.
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Speaker 2: Thank you so much. That's amazing.
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