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Speaker 1: People find it so hard to write down three things

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Speaker 1: can't do that, you can't manifest love into your life,

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Speaker 1: because you'll always feel unworthy of love. Even when someone

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Speaker 1: eyes and say I love you, you won't belie leave

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Speaker 1: it because you don't feel you're lovable. You haven't accepted

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Speaker 1: that there's parts of you that are completely lovable. And finally,

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Speaker 1: I'd suggest, what if you not healed from a previous

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Speaker 1: relationship that will affect the future. That's the energy to clear.

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Speaker 1: That's what you want to work on. You don't want

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Speaker 1: to carry that into the next stage. I hope, I

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Speaker 1: wish that twenty twenty five becomes your year of manifesting love.

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Speaker 1: I know it can. And all you have to do

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Speaker 1: is follow these steps. Listen to this episode every week,

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Speaker 1: save it, and it will be an incredible year. This

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Speaker 1: will be the year you will become a magnet and

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Speaker 1: manifest and attract love into your life if you follow

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Speaker 1: these simple steps. Thank you so much for listening. Remember

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Speaker 1: I'm forever in your corner and I'm always rooting for you.

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Speaker 1: If you love this episode, you're going to love my

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Speaker 1: conversation with Matthew Hussey on how to get over your

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Speaker 1: ex and find true love in your relationships. People should

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Speaker 1: be compassionate to themselves that extend that compassion to your

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Speaker 1: future self, because truly extending your compassion to your future

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Speaker 1: self is doing something that gives him or her a

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Speaker 1: shot at a happy and a peaceful life.