On Purpose with Jay Shetty
On Purpose with Jay Shetty
Addicted to Scrolling? 3 Small Changes to STOP Feeling Drained After Scrolling Social Media
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Addicted to Scrolling? 3 Small Changes to STOP Feeling Drained After Scrolling Social Media

What time of day do you scroll the most?

Have you tried setting limits on your screen time?

Today, Jay dives into one of the defining questions of our digital age: is the algorithm shaping who we become, or are we the ones quietly teaching it how to shape us? He reveals how every click, pause, and late-night scroll acts as a subtle signal, tiny instructions that train the system, which then turns around and begins to train us. Before we even realize it, our insecurities become fuel, our curiosity becomes comparison, and outrage becomes entertainment.

But Jay also reminds us that we’re not powerless, our agency hasn’t disappeared; it’s just buried beneath layers of habit. With calm, practical guidance, he shares how we can take our feed back into our own hands, break the doom-scroll cycle, and actually reprogram the digital environment influencing our minds. Whether it’s choosing who you follow more intentionally, setting healthy boundaries in the morning, sharing more consciously, or reconnecting with real-world anchors, Jay shows that we’re not just participants, we’re contributors to how the system works. And when we change how we show up, everything around us begins to shift as well.

In this episode, you'll learn:

How to Retrain Your Algorithm in Minutes

How to Recognize When the Algorithm Is Steering You

How to Build a Healthier, Calmer Feed

How to Use Social Media Without Losing Yourself

How to Strengthen Your Digital Self-Control

You weren’t meant to be overwhelmed by noise or pulled into constant comparison. You were built to create a life rooted in values, peace, and purpose. So take a breath, make one mindful choice at a time, and let it guide the next.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

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What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro

00:31 Even the Algorithm Has a Glitch

03:04 4 Subtle Ways the Algorithm Shapes You

07:59 How Your Clicks Create the Pattern

09:45 What a Social Network Looks Like Without All the Noise

13:08 Doom-Scrolling Can Give You Anxiety!

14:47 Solution #1: Bring Back Chronological Feeds

15:10 Solution #2: Take a Moment Before Hitting Share

16:06 Solution #3: Demand Algorithmic Transparency

16:29 Why Emotional Mastery and Critical Thinking Matter

19:11 5 Simple Ways to Reset Your For You Page

See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

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Speaker 1: Is our destiny coded in the algorithm. If you feel

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Speaker 1: addicted to social media, this video is for you. If

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Speaker 1: you feel glued to whatever's on your feed and can't

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Speaker 1: stop doom scrolling, this video is for you. And if

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Speaker 1: you're worried about how social media is rewiring your brain,

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Speaker 1: this video is for you. Don't skip it. The number

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Speaker 1: one health and wellness podcast Jay Sety Jay Shetty set

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Speaker 1: I wanted to start today saying one thing. The algorithm

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Speaker 1: isn't as smart as we think it is. But the

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Speaker 1: deeper I went into my research, the more I realize

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Speaker 1: something unsettling. It's stronger than me, stronger than you, stronger

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Speaker 1: than all of us because it knows our weaknesses. But

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Speaker 1: here's what I also found. Even the strongest system that

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Speaker 1: has a glitch, the algorithm doesn't just know us. It

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Speaker 1: depends on us. And if we learn how it feeds,

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Speaker 1: we can decide whether to starve it or steer it.

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Speaker 1: When you google the words will I ever, the first

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Speaker 1: thing that comes up is will I ever find love?

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Speaker 1: The second is will I ever be enough? And the

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Speaker 1: third is will I am net worth? We go from

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Speaker 1: love to worth to money really quickly. But this search

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Speaker 1: for love, worth and belonging is what the algorithm exploits,

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Speaker 1: but not in the way you think. Picture this, it's midnight.

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Speaker 1: Think of a girl named Amelia lies in bed, phone

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Speaker 1: in her hand. She posts a photo, nothing dramatic, just

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Speaker 1: She taps on another girl's profile, prettier, thinner, more followers,

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Speaker 1: She lingers, she clicks, She scrolls of them, pays attention.

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Speaker 1: The next night, her feed feels different, more flawless faces,

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Speaker 1: more filters, more diets, more lives that look nothing like hers.

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Speaker 1: Curiosity turns into comparison. Comparison turns into obsession, and soon

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Speaker 1: every scroll feels like it's whispering the same three words,

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Speaker 1: You're not enough. Until one night she doesn't see herself anymore.

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Speaker 1: She only sees the mirror the algorithm is holding up

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Speaker 1: to her. This isn't just a Merelia story. Fifty six

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Speaker 1: the algorithm build that mirror or did she was it

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Speaker 1: coded in Silicon Valley or coded in our own clicks.

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Speaker 1: Let's look at the algorithm first. What do algorithms actually do?

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Speaker 1: Number one They watch every pause, every click, every like,

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Speaker 1: Number two. They predict using your history and the behaviors

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Speaker 1: Your feed tomorrow is shaped by what you do today.

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Speaker 1: YouTube's recommendation engine is called a reinforcement system. It's literally

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Speaker 1: It's like a maximum security prison. So how do we

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Speaker 1: get trapped? First? The nudge think, Netflix, AutoPlay, TikTok, infinite scroll,

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Speaker 1: That's how you start a Korean baking show you didn't

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Speaker 1: the loop, Yale researchers found when people post moral outrage online,

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Speaker 1: Let's look at what role we play. Our clicks build

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Speaker 1: make a real difference This giving season, this December on

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Speaker 1: org forward slash on purpose. Number two. False news spread

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Speaker 1: six times faster than true news because shocking content sparks

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Speaker 1: more clicks and shares from us, so the algorithm promotes

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Speaker 1: it further. The content must already have emotional potency. An

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Speaker 1: each additional negative effect word in a post is associated

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Speaker 1: when given the opportunity, users click links confirming their bias

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Speaker 1: thought experiment. Why don't we create a social media platform

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Speaker 1: They already tried that, and when I'm about to share

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Speaker 1: Researchers tried interventions dampening virality, hiding follow accounts, even boosting

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Speaker 1: the algorithms that wop us. Maybe social media itself is

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Speaker 1: wired against our better nature. Think about it like a

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Speaker 1: funhouse mirror. It doesn't simply reflect who we are. It

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Speaker 1: weaker selves. When we choose our weaker self, humans are

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Speaker 1: not just curious. We're programmed to measure ourselves against others.

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Speaker 1: Comparison is our oldest survival instinct. Envy is the emotional fuel.

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Speaker 1: when we're tired, overwhelmed, and exhausted. Humans are not ruled

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Speaker 1: price of admission. The algorithm didn't create envy, it just

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Speaker 1: turned it into an economy. Now why do we do this?

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Speaker 1: The first is negativity bias. Evolution tuned us to notice

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Speaker 1: Expressing outrage signals loyalty to your group. It tells others

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Speaker 1: just emotion, its identity signaling. Clicking rage is clicking belonging.

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Speaker 1: Number three cognitive efficiency. Negative content is often simpler. This

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Speaker 1: is bad. They're wrong, We're threatened. The brain prefers cognitive

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Speaker 1: ease over nuance. Complex balanced content demands more effort. Negativity

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Speaker 1: feels immedia, digest and actionable. So what do we do

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Speaker 1: about this? Doom Scrolling increases cortisol, anxiety, and learned helplessness.

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Speaker 1: In that state, people feel like they have no agency,

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Speaker 1: the incentive issue? People often ask me if I think

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Speaker 1: AI will ever have a soul, and my response is,

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Speaker 1: I don't know if AI will ever have a soul.

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Speaker 1: I just hope that people building AI have a soul.

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Speaker 1: media companies could try. The first is platforms should offer

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Speaker 1: We have to remember that we are wired for generosity

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Speaker 1: We built a machine to know us, and it became

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Speaker 1: They're predictive, not deterministic. They rely on your past clicks.

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Speaker 1: I started in the for you page. The for you

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Speaker 1: shows me influencer content. Now I'm going to show you

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Speaker 1: because this page is so visual. I'm going to do

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Speaker 1: it through finding quotes and also, you know I love quotes,

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Speaker 1: So I'm going to go follow some quotes. I'm going

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Speaker 1: Through three to four simple steps, I transformed my for

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Speaker 1: I recommend you do. It's simple. I want you to

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Speaker 1: follow five people you wouldn't usually follow. Agency isn't eliminated,

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Speaker 1: it's eroded by habit. People who intentionally curate their feeds,

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Speaker 1: limit usage, or diversify inputs show significantly less polarization. The

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Speaker 1: second thing I want you to do is hover over

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Speaker 1: see more of your offline life still matters. Real books,

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Speaker 1: And number three, I want you to share five pieces

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Speaker 1: your algorithm. Number four, don't look at your phone first

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Speaker 1: thing in the morning. It's like letting one hundred strangers

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Speaker 1: don't do it online. And five be present with joy.

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Speaker 1: Celebrate your friend's wins and accomplishments. Stop overreacting to negativity

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Speaker 1: and underreacting to joy. We remember the bad times more

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Speaker 1: for a month, and when we win, we celebrate for

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Speaker 1: a night. Here's what I want you to remember when

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Speaker 1: you like something. You're telling the algorithm show me more

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Speaker 1: When you comment on something, you're saying, this is really

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Speaker 1: important to me. And when you share it off the platform,

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Speaker 1: you're saying, fill my feed with this. You're co creating

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Speaker 1: your algorithm. You're actually coding it. One of my favorite

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Speaker 1: thoughts comes from F. Scott Fitzgerald. He said, the test

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Speaker 1: of a first rate intelligence is the ability to hold

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Speaker 1: and still retain the ability to function. One should, for example,

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Speaker 1: he said, be able to see that things are hopeless

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Speaker 1: and yet be determined to make them otherwise. That second

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Speaker 1: part is so needed right now, That's what our stories need,

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Speaker 1: accepting that things are tough, things are really hard, and

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Speaker 1: make a change, You can transform your life, you can

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Speaker 1: take accountability, you can take action, you do have agency.

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Speaker 1: Reminding the world that extraordinary things have always been achieved

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Speaker 1: Imagine you walk into a party. At first, it looks fun,

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Speaker 1: people laughing, music playing, stories being told. But then you

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Speaker 1: notice something strange. Everywhere you turn, someone's doing better than you,

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Speaker 1: more success. You walk into another room, and this one

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Speaker 1: feels worse. The room is full of arguments, everyone's shouting,

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Speaker 1: no one's listening, and the louder and angrier someone is

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Speaker 1: You never chose to come to this room. You were

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Speaker 1: It doesn't force us into comparison. It discovers we're already

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Speaker 1: drawn to it. It doesn't create division, It learns that

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Speaker 1: anger holds our gaze longer than joy. The algorithm didn't

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Speaker 1: create outrage. It turned outrage into entertainment. And here's the

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Speaker 1: question only you can answer. When you pick up your

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Speaker 1: or will you finally leave? Thank you for listening. I

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Speaker 1: hope you've subscribed. Share this episode with someone who needs

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Speaker 1: and I'm always rooting for you. If you love this episode,

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Speaker 1: you will also love my interview with Charles Douhig on

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Speaker 1: how to hack your brain, change any habit effortlessly, and

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Speaker 1: the secret to making better decisions. Look, am I hesitating

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