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Speaker 1: Instead of panicking, you pause, take a breath and tell yourself,

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Speaker 1: Hey everyone, welcome back to On Purpose. I am so

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Speaker 1: glad that we're here together. Thanks, Thank you so much

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Speaker 1: there's so many of you this year that have so

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Speaker 1: your way is your doubt, your insecurity, your scarcity. You

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Speaker 1: might have the doubt I'm not good enough for that,

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Speaker 1: Let's dive in with step one. Train your brain to

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Speaker 1: How many of you have ever felt that no matter

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Speaker 1: know I've felt that way before. It's really hard. We

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Speaker 1: easy to criticize our losses. We will quickly judge our mistakes,

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Speaker 1: but we will very slowly celebrate our wins. Please take

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Speaker 1: your wins as importantly as your losses. Don't overvalue failure

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Speaker 1: and undervalue success. Thank you so much for listening to today.

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Speaker 1: And remember, insecurity isn't some personal flaw. It's a byproduct

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Speaker 1: Using advanced psychological theories like cognitive dissonance, sun cast, fallacy,

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Speaker 1: and the locus of control, you can take back control,

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Speaker 1: embrace your unique strengths, and walk confidently into the life

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Speaker 1: Remember I'm forever in your corner and I'm always rooting

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Speaker 1: for you, and I'm so grateful for your love and trust.

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Speaker 1: Thank you so much, see you so thank you so

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Speaker 1: much for listening to this conversation. If you enjoyed it,

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Speaker 1: you'll love my chat with Adam Grant on why discomfort

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Speaker 1: is the key to growth and the strategies for unlocking

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Speaker 1: your hidden potential. If you know you want to be

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Speaker 1: more and achieve more this year, go check it out

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Speaker 1: right now. You set a goal today, you achieve it

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